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#2816 - 08/03/04 01:14 AM "Cut and Run"
onlyakid Offline

Registered: 03/31/04
Posts: 1577
Loc: New Jersey
I saw someone refrerence "Cut and Run" as a coping mechinism, and now I can't find the post. So I started a new one.

Just wanted to say that I have used this technique many times (I'm assuming cut and run refers to leaving the situation as soon as you can). I had been having some problems at work, feeling like I wasn't doing things right, I was a fraud I didn't know what I was doing, etc. Anyway, most of the time I responded to this by faking a reason to go home. Had a migraine, etc. Well now that I'm on a little more medication, I find myself being able to hang in there and I just had my most active month ever 158 hours (almost full time).

Feels good, but it still is difficult to do, but it can happen. Today I almost left work but I went to lunch and just took a step back and thought about my problems and solved them.

Don't know why I'm saying this but just thought it should have been said.


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#2818 - 08/03/04 06:31 AM Re: "Cut and Run"
Bill_1965 Offline
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Registered: 06/29/03
Posts: 1984
Loc: Flint, Michigan

I think you are referring to Aden's post "Where I was comming from";f=1;t=004185


Pain is Temporary; Quitting lasts Forever. - Lance Armstrong

#2819 - 08/03/04 03:11 PM Re: "Cut and Run"
Mike Church Offline
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Registered: 01/23/03
Posts: 3439
Loc: Toronto, Canada
Jason the cut and run syndrome is really common with us. The problem is we are human and as such we need a closeness with others. It is the human condition and why we band together.

I think it is a trust issue. We are afraid to do that because our trust has been virtually run over by a MACK TRUCK and left us badly injured. A good way to start is here with your brothers. I dont know how many of us have done that here. I suspect all of us. I am glad that you had a sucessful month on the job. Next step is to establish some outside relationships of friendship. Once again it can start here. PM's etc.



#2820 - 08/04/04 07:11 PM Re: "Cut and Run"
Leosha Offline

Registered: 06/18/03
Posts: 3614
Loc: Right here

congratulation on the progress you have made. I think I have done 'cut and run' few times, but I am not able maintain the run part. Because I feel ashamed and guilty for running, so I can not even enjoy that coping mechanism. But I am glad that you are maintaining, and doing so well at work. I think the success you start to feel will make you feel more comfortable.


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