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#277867 - 03/02/09 03:15 AM Need Help!!
AYounglove10 Offline

Registered: 11/17/08
Posts: 30
Loc: U.S., Arizona
I'm in such a rut.
My best friend, my closest friend, is hurting and it's my fault.
He feels terrible because he sees me in pain so much.
He has sought out counceling for it because he tends to worry so much.
I can't stop but be in a state of depression.
It hurts him that I still believe that my abuse was somewhat my fault.
I hate this.
I'm having such troublse with the abuse stuff and then my friend separates himself from me because he hurts every time he sees me hurt.

#277872 - 03/02/09 03:38 AM Re: Need Help!! [Re: AYounglove10]
christianfather Offline

Registered: 05/04/08
Posts: 116
Loc: TN

My best friend and the only person in the world who knows what happened to me. It got to the point that every time he saw me he broke down in tears. For the lack of a better term, we had to seek couples counseling to deal with this in a healthy way. On of the things that my friend had to realize was that it's Ok for me to hurt, it's part of the healing process. By accepting the hurt we are able to cope with the abuse we went through.


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