our moral boundaries might be there for a reason
i think it is very important, especially here in the sexual identity forum, that people be careful about such statements, or at least qualify them by being less vague regarding exactly what personal meaning such a statement holds for them.
i don't see how this issue is a moral dilemma for charlie, and making this statement may cue people to think that there is something wrong with them for not feeling as if there should be.
reinforcing cultural and personal shame ideas that sex is bad, is not helpful in a place where men come to find recovery from negative attitudes and messages. the impact of these only contribute to the disassociation which helped form the dissonance state in which such 'concerns' arise.
morality is relative to the individual's value system. one man's boundary may be another's liberty. and regarding sexual experimentation, who is to say what someone elses moral boundary should be. that is a private matter between individuals.
i think all the questions that are raised in the original query are valid questions, and show that charlie is in touch with what is going on inside himself, unlike many of us who come here is a disassociative state.
it is natural to experiment with different sexual configurations, and commendable that someone is able to report on their own reaction to them in such as manner as to say, 'yea, i like that' or 'no, that is not it'. it's part of the process of learning how to form a sexual identity. a process so many of us missed out on because the abuse more or less drove us into relationships that were not right for us.
to ask questions is healthy. to be able to rule out certain possibilities is healthy. to be able to come to male survivor and ask for support with an issue is healthy.
to act responsibly in sexual experimentation is recommended. by no means should it be avoided because of a cultural taboo against sexual things. shutting the door on sexuality and locking it behind a chastity belt does nothing but cause people more pain and suffering, mentally emotionally and otherwise. we can't keep running from the responsibility that we have to ourselves to unpack and to explore the topic of sexuality in healthy and responsible ways. it is part of becoming fully human, fully alive.
just some thoughts that arose,