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#2737 - 08/04/03 05:49 AM Been gone a while
Sick Puppy Offline

Registered: 03/30/03
Posts: 300
Loc: Nowhere Land
Hi everyone.

I took a few months (how long has it been, really?) off of posting... for a while I thought I might not post at all anymore.

It had nothing to do with the board itself... I love you guys. \:\) I had no problems with the community or anything like that. I just became concerned that I was being too self-centered after being told I talked about my abuse too much...

I am back, for now, but I am not sure how much I will participate. I wanted to go into the chat but got an error saying "the chat room can't be accessed through this page" or something of the like. I went into the chat last night and talked to some people I hadn't in a long time... it was nice. \:\)

I still feel that perhaps I should shut up about my abuse but then again I don't know how I can heal if I do. I don't want to be an attention whore or anything like that...

And one day we will die
And our ashes will fly
From the aeroplane over the sea
But for now we are young
Let us lay in the sun
And count every beautiful thing we can see

Neutral Milk Hotel - In the Aeroplane Over the Sea

#2738 - 08/04/03 06:59 AM Re: Been gone a while
Ivanhoe Offline

Registered: 03/19/03
Posts: 1907
Hey, Josh,

Good to see you, man. I've missed seeing your posts and posting in comment to your posts.

Aren't you getting ready to move--where is it, Sante Fe? You had enquired about possible connections there and I think that the guy who wrote our pamphlet for the member packet lives there. Man, maybe he's got a group going, wouldn't that be cool.
Give us an update on all of those plans, if I'm not being too nosy.
Welcome back, I'm glad you're back.


"No soul is desolate as long as there is a human being for whom it can feel trust and reverence."
George Eliot

#2739 - 08/04/03 10:55 AM Re: Been gone a while
zadok1 Offline

Registered: 11/05/02
Posts: 188
Loc: Ohio
i quit coming for a time too. i think we all go through cycles, highs and lows. in the end, the brotherhood and understanding keeps drawing me back here. welcome back, and you can enjoy posting here without becoming a zealot. like so much in life, just have to find a balance.


The world is a dangerous place, not because of those that are evil, but because of those who do nothing about them- Albert Einstein

#2740 - 08/04/03 02:44 PM Re: Been gone a while
outis Offline

Registered: 02/27/03
Posts: 2261
Loc: Maryland USA

It' s great to see you post again.

As for talking too much about your abuse, fuggedabout it! I believe that you can't keep that stuff in and get better. Put trigger warnings on things if you're unsure, but don't try to keep it in.


I am glad to see you back, too. Your advice to MM
assigning feelings to others really closes down communication.
let her own her feelings, and you own yours. it'll help, i promise.
might have been written for me. Glad you came around to dish it out.



"Telemachos, your guest is no discredit to you. I wasted no time in stringing the bow, and I did not miss the mark. My strength is yet unbroken…"—The Odyssey, translated by W.H.D. Rouse

#2741 - 08/04/03 03:32 PM Re: Been gone a while
ScottyTodd Offline
Administrator Emeritus
Registered: 02/12/03
Posts: 1561
Loc: Pennsylvania
Hi Josh - Welcome back! I missed your posts. I enjoyed following your progress that shone through those posts! Sorry for your hiatus, but I'm even sorrier because stopped because of what someone said. You were doing pretty well (I believe) here on the boards and that's your right!! Our perps took things away from us in the past - now it's our turn to prevent what people do or say to take anything away from us again. Glad you decided to post again \:D

We are here to help each other and how can we do that if no one asks questions or shares concerns about their issues?? Keep posting!!


If you think you can or you can't - you're right!.......anon
It's never too late to have a happy childhood!.....anon
You're very normal for the abnormal situation you've been through..............S. Todd

#2742 - 08/04/03 06:32 PM Re: Been gone a while
Mike Church Offline
Moderator Emeritus
Registered: 01/23/03
Posts: 3439
Loc: Toronto, Canada
Josh you come here to heal and that is what you are doing. If it means hashing and trying to deal with your problems so be it. Your posts in support of everyone have been missed.

I hope that you are coming along in your recovery.

I dont know if I was a moderator when you left but you can see I am one now. Lowered the standards for me. Tallsteve is also a moderator.

We are looking forward to hearing from you again.



#2743 - 08/04/03 09:42 PM Re: Been gone a while
ecb Offline

Registered: 02/04/03
Posts: 205
Good to see you back Josh.

Sometimes I get the same feeling that I want to talk about my abuse, but don't want to be an attention whore or beat a dead horse too. I daresay it's (gasp) normal. \:\)

Sometimes I get the same error for the chat room. I'm not sure if it's a bug or what, but I have written down the url for the chat room and if I can't get there through links, typing it in usually woks.

Welcome back


#2744 - 08/04/03 10:03 PM Re: Been gone a while
BT Offline

Registered: 06/25/03
Posts: 388
Loc: Chicago IL
I am very glad to see you back. I can't imagine why someone on this site would think someone is talking too much about their abuse. I for one know I need to talk about it a lot more than I do, and I get a lot of help from people like you that do talk about it.

So from me, thanks for talking, and welcome back.


"Everyone is entitled to their opinions and it is not my job to change their mind." Dali Lama

#2745 - 08/04/03 10:56 PM Re: Been gone a while
Lloydy Offline
Administrator Emeritus
Registered: 04/17/02
Posts: 7071
Loc: England Shropshire
It's good to see you back man ! I thought we'd lost you somewhere.

And as for keeping quiet, I tried that for 31 years, trust me - it don't work !
Talk all you want.


Go confidently in the direction of your dreams! Live the life you've imagined. As you simplify your life, the laws of the universe will be simpler.
Henry David Thoreau

#2746 - 08/05/03 12:05 AM Re: Been gone a while
The Dean Offline
Moderator Emeritus
Registered: 07/15/02
Posts: 2080
Loc: Milwaukee, WI
Hi Josh,

It is great to see you here. You have been missed Lad!

Talking and writting about our abuse is the way to get into a recovery mode. Like Dave says, silence helps no one. Breakiing the silence helps us all.

I think we can break it here--and then we can break it in a larger way if we wish to. Today, I was interviewed by our local Milwaukee newspaper. I gave a very complete interview. Had I not talked about things here, and gotten feed back and support, the local paper would not even know that I am a survivor.

Josh, I encourage you to write about whatever you feel you want to, at a particular time. Sometimes it is a question, and sometimes it might be a story, or a comment, whatever. But I do believe that the more you open up, the more your healing can move forward, AND the more someone else may get the courage to break the silence.

Delighted to hear from you Josh.


If we do not live what we believe, then we will begin to believe what we live.

#2747 - 08/05/03 10:04 AM Re: Been gone a while
guy43 Offline

Registered: 11/17/02
Posts: 450
Loc: Minnesota
wb sp


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