Even the word recovery implies that something has to be in the past. I am not in recovery.
The other part is that healing is not a choice for everyone as you see it. That places unwaranted blame, the best anyone can do is give effort toward that goal. Nobody heals themself. I wouldn't say that the guys on this site are healed or else they would not come here. They are all hurt in their own ways just as you probably are but not everything is measured by your experience, that's projecting.
All I can do is ask for what I need and what I need to know. I have no power to stop what is done to me, I can't even explain it in a way that anybody really understands.
The statistics? 1 in 4, 1 in 6?
...then there's me the imaginary number