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#268633 - 12/25/08 01:38 AM Partner with abuse history
Legolas Offline

Registered: 12/24/08
Posts: 2

Recently I started dating a wonderful guy. He told me rather soon that he had been sexually abused as a child by a teenage girl and that it will take him a while before he feels safe with me, both when it comes to feelings and actual intercourse.

I would like to be able to understand him better as to how he feels and learn whether there is anything I could do to help him/us find the way. Would anyone be able to recommend any resources?

Thank you very much.

#269183 - 12/29/08 12:05 PM Re: Partner with abuse history [Re: Legolas]
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Hi Legolas, and welcome to the site. It's great that you are hear looking for ways to help your friend, as I'm sure he could use your support in this. There are several great resources in the way of books - the first I would recommend is Mike Lew's "Victims No Longer" and the second is Mic Hunter's "Abused Boys". Both are arguably the best texts out there on the subject of childhood sexual abuse of males. And I would also recommend that you read these, as well as your friend. There are sections regarding friends and families of the abused boy that give powerful insights into how all of this spills over to them as well.

Again, welcome to the site, and thanks for being there for your friend.



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