I thought that this might be an interesting topic: What I've Learned So Far. (It actually reminds me of a certain Monty Python skit, but I've digressed).
This is what I've learned, about myself and others as a result of facing my own abuse and beginning recovery from it:
1. That both sides of my family have tremendous amounts of hidden childhood sexual abuse.
2. That many of my current friends, as well as friends who are gone, had nightmarish experiences growing up.
3. That I'm not alone.
4. That I've never been in love with anyone really, just found new abusers, and occasionally victims, to reenact my own past abuse.
5. That this s*&t is hard to recover from, but rewarding.
6. That day by day I can walk beside my brother sufferers and overcome the pain of my past and look forward to a brighter future.
7. That I'm not the only one whose male relatives paid more attention to my genitals than my mind or emotions.
8. That I was neglected more by my father, especially when I was very young, than abused. The abuse added injury to insult, and I was insulted and berated a lot.
9. That I'm not the only one who feels fearful or ashamed when someone compliments me.
10. That I have a faith which really works and shores up my being, if I practice it. And this strength is what is sustaining me through each new trial as I recall, reveal, and review my life in a way that is meaningful, and not just self-pitying.
11. That I can ask for help, and actually get it.
12. That it's okay not to be perfect, or even close. That I can really screw up and find a way to make it better, because I now know that my head is getting screwed on a little straighter each day.
Add your own revelations.
Easy Does I - - - - - - Lą oł il y a la vie il y a l'espoir.
One Day At A Time - - - Lą oł il y a l'espoir: la vie.
First Things First- - - Where there's life there's hope.
LIVE and Let Live - - - Where there is hope: life.