ew yuk major ick factor! sorry you had to go through that. people who allow themselves to go there, so sloppy drunk and crossing appropriate boundary lines are very sick people doug.
if it's any consolation, consider yourself lucky you were target by a sleaze-ball instead of a murderer. i guess you could also be flattered. but probably not. the situation you describe probably reminded you too much of your abuse.
the thing that strikes me the most about this, is that in any relationship, whether it lasts 5 minutes in a bar, or 5 years with a person, that's how i always end up feeling.....like i am being mauled by some bear in the woods.
remarkable how being abused makes one forget how to say 'no' and inhibits [well actually destroys] the natural fight/flight response.
sad, but don't give up on going out and enjoying yourself. don't rule out any future fun just because of one stupid jerk.
Ron Schulz, MSPC, NCC