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#257515 - 10/24/08 10:14 PM GBTQ Group -- Date and Sign Up!!!!!
M3 Offline

Registered: 09/05/07
Posts: 1392
Loc: Central Ohio
GBTQ Discussion Group and Healing Circle
Sundays – 9pm -11pm Eastern
Group Begins Sunday, November 2nd

I’m really excited to announce a new group on Sunday evenings – part discussion group, part healing circle, but all for us, the GBTQ members of MaleSurvivor. The purpose of having a GBTQ specific group is to give us a safe environment in which to use our voices to discuss our issues. Often times GBTQ members feel they must sensor themselves when speaking of our issues to keep from triggering other members. Having our own group, we empower us to delve into issues that we may shy from discussing elsewhere on the site.

Note that this group is a discussion group as well as a healing circle. The concept is to allow us to openly discuss issues that may pertain to the site or topics that are more general as opposed to a specific member’s recovery. For example, we could discuss MaleSurvivor’s support of its GBTQ members or society’s misconceptions of homosexuals, pedophiles and males survivors. We will also have time where we share the floor with survivors to give support and work on recovery.

In order to promote orderliness and safety in this environment, some structure and rules have to be in place:
  • What is said in the room stays in the room. Confidentiality is important in dealing with sharing sensitive subject matter. If you wish to share about yourself in any threads, then that is totally up to you. The exception will be information we wish to be shared to enhance the site or site management to make MaleSurvivor safer or more effective as a place of recovery.
  • Check out with the room before leaving for the evening. Dropping out without a graceful exit tends to raise questions with others like “Did I say something wrong?” If you must leave quickly, try to send the facilitator a quick PM and he can pass that on to the rest of the room. Try also to understand someone may be having technical difficulties that necessitate a fast exit.
  • No personal attacks or name calling of any kind on other members of the circle. We are all looking for support here, not criticism.
  • Information gained from sources outside of the circle (i.e. chat, PMs, etc.) should not be disclosed inside the circle. Confidentiality should be maintained as a two-way street.

Michael (aka M3/mmilroy)

Either post to this thread or private message Michael (M3). Make sure to include your chat room name so we recognize you when you enter the chat room.


Meet in chat at start time and you will be invited into the private Healing Circle room.

If your chat name is different than here on the Discussion Board please let us know so you wouldn't be overlooked!

Below is some information on how the meetings work, please print this out so you can reference it during the meeting.

When we start the Group, there may be some short announcements before check-in time. Afterwards, when check-in time has arrived, type “CI” if you would like to do a check-in. If you feel inclined to pass, simply type “CI pass.” Check Ins should be a sentence or two about how you are doing

If you have a specific issue to share for the evening which needs some length of time, during check-in time would be the best time to indicate that time is needed for sharing. Simply state that you could “use some time” or “need time.” In a two-hour time frame, the maximum number of people who “need time” is best kept at four or less. If we have eight people needing time, no one would get any productive sharing or feedback for the evening. If there happens to be time after everyone has shared, anyone else who wants to share will be notified via PM that there is X amount of time left if they wish to utilize this.

Always type “done” when you are finished sharing feedback, questions, etc, for your turn. This indicates to the facilitator that the next person can be called upon to share their feedback, question, etc.

If you feel compelled to offer feedback for someone, simply type “FB” and when the last person who was sharing types “done” you should be called upon next. Once in a while a person may get skipped amidst the managing of a busy room, and one of us relies on another to keep us up on who requests feedback, so please be patient if you were overlooked, and you will be called upon. If you are the one who is sharing a specific item and desire no feedback, please let the room know by typing “No feedback please.” Often it is a policy of the facilitator to ask if a sharer is alright with questions or feedback.

All of us are not required to share feedback, so if you feel moved to just listen and observe for the evening, this is okay. Periods of silence in the room are also okay, if any.

If you feel especially triggered by content shared during the evening, PM the facilitator and the triggering content will be discussed.

Have a word processor open. When waiting for your turn, write your comment or question in your word processor and copy and paste it in.

At the end of the Healing Circle session, which is roughly two hours long, we will have check-outs which are not unlike check-ins. Type “CO” if you have a check-out or “CO pass” if not.

Please make every effort you can to be on time to get the most out of your meeting time. Yes, things happen and come up at the last minute.

#257524 - 10/24/08 10:26 PM Re: GBTQ Group -- Date and Sign Up!!!!! [Re: M3]
Roofus Offline

Registered: 01/24/08
Posts: 233
Loc: Utah
count me in! Chat room name = ahanberg

#257529 - 10/24/08 11:01 PM Re: GBTQ Group -- Date and Sign Up!!!!! [Re: Roofus]
Niels Offline

Registered: 10/07/05
Posts: 196

Edited by Niels (12/10/08 01:16 PM)
Edit Reason: privacy-trust issues-post deleted
I live in my own little world - but that is OK! - They know me here.

#257781 - 10/25/08 05:39 PM Re: GBTQ Group -- Date and Sign Up!!!!! [Re: Niels]
Liri Offline

Registered: 12/28/07
Posts: 127
Loc: Seattle, WA
My schedule should allow for that.

My chat name is Liridon.

As a small child, I felt in my heart two contradictory feelings, the horror of life and the ecstasy of life. --Charles Baudelaire

My Story

#258005 - 10/26/08 12:13 PM Re: GBTQ Group -- Date and Sign Up!!!!! [Re: Liri]
beakin Offline

Registered: 08/14/08
Posts: 44
Loc: Texas
Sign me up and I'll give it a try.


ben (beakin)

Only you can do it, but you cannot do it alone.

#258156 - 10/26/08 11:23 PM Re: GBTQ Group -- Date and Sign Up!!!!! [Re: beakin]
No1Special Offline

Registered: 10/26/08
Posts: 10
Following a response to my other thread I'd like to ask if I could join.

As you can't change chat names in chat anymore it seems, I'll be No1Special.


Edited by No1Special (10/27/08 12:41 AM)

#258329 - 10/27/08 09:29 PM . [Re: No1Special]
justmejoey Offline

Registered: 09/25/08
Posts: 37

#258453 - 10/28/08 08:11 AM Re: GBTQ Group -- Date and Sign Up!!!!! [Re: justmejoey]
Joren Offline

Registered: 09/22/08
Posts: 51
Loc: US
I'm very glad I can be there and have sincere hopes that this will help. Thanks for organizing it Michael.


#259055 - 10/30/08 07:23 PM Re: GBTQ Group -- Date and Sign Up!!!!! [Re: Joren]
Me2 Offline
New Here

Registered: 02/28/08
Posts: 22
Loc: USA
Sign me up.

Me2 on BB and hjohnson in chat.


WOR Alum Dahlonega & Alta 08

#259206 - 10/31/08 06:07 PM Re: GBTQ Group -- Date and Sign Up!!!!! [Re: Me2]
dusty42 Offline

Registered: 09/24/08
Posts: 111
Loc: Kentucky
Dusty42 has deleted this message. I no longer feel safe here.

Edited by dusty42 (03/18/09 07:08 PM)
Edit Reason: I no longer feel safe here
Pinky: "Gee Brain, what do you want to do tonight?"
The Brain: "The same thing we do every night, Pinky—try to take over the world."

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