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#26596 - 08/11/05 01:59 AM Re: Then & Now
ForeverFighting Offline

Registered: 02/09/05
Posts: 1253
Loc: New Mexico, USA
I'm just me, its not my job to be like my Dad. I have a gf & she likes me a lot & i think Im a loving person. When I get married & have kids im going to be the best dad in the world.
That's beautiful, glaukos. The whole post is beautiful. Thank you for writing that.

You are a loving person. And I agree. A real father comes from love, not blood. That being true, I'd say you have a lot of brothers and uncles here, too. I'm so happy for you.

"This search for the truth--it's not for the faint of heart."--Goren on 'Law & Order: CI'
"The former things will not be called to mind, nor will they come up into the heart."--Isaiah 65:17

#26597 - 08/11/05 02:16 AM Re: Then & Now
Lloydy Offline
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Registered: 04/17/02
Posts: 7071
Loc: England Shropshire
what a wonderful post, I'm so glad you put those feelings into words.


Go confidently in the direction of your dreams! Live the life you've imagined. As you simplify your life, the laws of the universe will be simpler.
Henry David Thoreau

#26598 - 08/11/05 02:22 AM Re: Then & Now
reality2k4 Offline

Registered: 07/06/04
Posts: 6845
Loc: Stuck between water, air, and ...
Kev, you are just like JT, and you will be as good and loved person in society, because God got him into your life, yeah God works in pretty mysterious ways.

It is hard to not love a birthdad, but he should never have beaten his own kids, I would never raise a hand to a kid, never.

You protected your little brothers, that does not make you into a Ho, you have shown courage in protecting them from the abuser, and you should feel proud.

When I read stuff you posted I thot! If I had been there, then he would never do that again, and probably end up in prison for it, and it is scarey being alone and frightened with no way out.

Never let the guilt be yours, it wasnt yours, you are a great guy, and you have shown courage beyond belief, but now it is time for you to be yourself.

You can always PM me if you dont find the answers to things you face right now, but it was never your fault.

It is so easy to blame life events on yourself, because you think! Hey, everyone wants to make it worse, but now you are grounded in a good family who cares loads about you, and we do too, ;\)



Whoever stole the Sun, put it back and we'll drop all the charges!

#26599 - 08/11/05 02:27 AM Re: Then & Now
sabooka Offline

Registered: 05/19/05
Posts: 209
Loc: I would like to know also

what you wrote is amazing. I am giving you a standing ovation even if it is in the wrong forum.


Really really proud of you.


My happiness is not dependant on other people's misery.

#26600 - 08/11/05 08:13 AM Re: Then & Now
TJ jeff Offline

Registered: 08/07/04
Posts: 3597
Loc: Northern Wisconsin

It's really great to know that you can so clearly see how you have changed in your time here - you are a shining light of hope to those new people here who wonder if things can ever really change

Many of us did'nt understand that the things of our past wer'nt our faults (myself included) when we first came here - it is good to see you put the blame/guilt/shame where it has belonged all along

It is really great that you have a loving Dad in your life now - and I am sure that when you do get married and have kids of your own that you will be a great and loving father to them

TJ jeff

Who will cry for the little boy? - I will... - Antwone Fisher

Abuse happens in silence/isolation - Recovery happens only when that silence/isolation is broken...

TJ's History

#26601 - 08/11/05 08:46 AM Re: Then & Now
FormerTexan Offline

Registered: 09/12/04
Posts: 12187
Loc: Denver, CO
This was so encouraging. Thank you.

Money talks, but all it tells me is goodbye.

If I could meet myself as a boy...

#26602 - 08/11/05 10:11 PM Re: Then & Now
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Registered: 05/02/05
Posts: 22045
Loc: Carlisle, PA

Others have said it but never mind, here it comes again. This is an amazing post and I am so very proud of you. There is one thing I want you to look at in particular:

I did what I had to do to keep my little brothers safe.
Absolutely true, and as Ste says you should be proud of this, not ashamed. You were faced with a terrible choice: protect yourself or protect your three younger brothers. I hope you can see how your decision was one that took enormous love and courage. The rest of us see this in you over and over again, but you need to see it as well.

I am making this point for a reason. As your court case develops things may get scary and you may wonder how you will find the courage to face everything. Just remember that all the courage you need you already have.

Take care Little Thunder,

Nobody living can ever stop me
As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me.
(Woody Guthrie)

#26603 - 08/13/05 12:20 AM Re: Then & Now
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Registered: 12/31/03
Posts: 1611
Kev - it's great when you can look back and see that progress has been made. I thank you for sharing that here with other's that may be new and wondering where they are heading to.

Good luck with the case - you have the inner strength to win this.

Best wishes ...Rik

*Never look down on anybody unless you're helping them up.
*I was seeking a way of expressing my anger - I found hope!
*There are many battles before the war is won! It can be won!


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