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#263769 - 11/26/08 05:41 AM Being blamed for everything...
ChristineTrying Offline

Registered: 06/24/08
Posts: 36
Seems lately my H is blaming me for everything. Oh, the sky is blue, well it's my fault that it's not gray out today.

Is this a carryover from abuse or is it simply a guy being a guy?

Also, never being believed about anything...does that happen to anyone?

#263787 - 11/26/08 10:54 AM Re: Being blamed for everything... [Re: ChristineTrying]
Olive Offline
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Registered: 01/01/08
Posts: 16
Loc: New Jersey
Christine Trying,

So you're the one responsible for the sky being blue? I got blamed for that yesterday, but of course he didn't believe me.

All kidding aside, it seems he really thinks everything is my fault some way or another and that his actions haven't contributed in any way whatsoever. It's always everyone else.

Also, when I'm being blamed for something, it seems he has the whole thing figured out in his head and no amount of explaining what really happened makes any difference at all. I have been blamed for things I have never done in my life.

I've wondered over the years if it's just him but I believe it is related to his survivor issues so I don't take it too personal. And I have stopped going on the defense, because it's a waste of my time, and usually just escalates the situation.

You're not alone, hang in there,

#263789 - 11/26/08 11:54 AM Re: Being blamed for everything... [Re: Olive]
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Registered: 09/05/06
Posts: 332
Loc: london

Edited by soapy bubbles (09/01/09 03:01 PM)
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