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#26176 - 10/20/03 01:35 PM Is this success?
Leosha Offline

Registered: 06/18/03
Posts: 3614
Loc: Right here
I am not sure how to feel of this. I get an email today from a friend (?) back at home, who tells me what the sport federation do of my old coach. They had done 'investigation' of him earlier because of what one person had said of him, and at that time, said that there is no proof he is bad man or does these things. So then I told them that I will make charge on him also, they must do more investigation of him.

Now I find out, today, they decide they will fine him money, and have made rule that he can not be alone with anyone under age of 18 years, ever, as coach with them. That if he does that, he will be suspended of his job and they will make report to legal authorities.

I guess it is some success, maybe it will make him think more of what he do and not do it, maybe he will be afraid more of what will be done to him or known about him. I know that I am not ready to make this matter public for legal things to be done of him. But, I do not know, I feel I have let down others, and maybe this is not enough punishment of him. But I do not know what else I can do right now, what I am capable of emotionally.

I do not know if I can think of this as sucess or not.


Avatar photo in memory of my younger brother Makar.

"Human salvation lies in the hands of the creatively maladjusted."~~~Martin Luther King Jr., 1963

#26177 - 10/20/03 01:38 PM Re: Is this success?
crisispoint Offline

Registered: 09/24/03
Posts: 2154
Loc: Massachusetts

Yes, yes, and YES!

This is success!

I am proud of you. It may never seem enough, but he knows he cannot act in the dark anymore.

You have saved lives, whether you believe it or not.

I am so proud of you!

Scot \:D

There are reasons I'm taking medication. They're called "other people." - Me, displaying my anti-social tendancies

#26178 - 10/20/03 01:50 PM Re: Is this success?
FlyWM Offline

Registered: 09/14/03
Posts: 322
Loc: Michigan
Hey buddy, this is some success, at leat he hopefully will no longer be able to harm anyone else. I know that you are not ready to go public, but for the moment it is enough, and when you are ready, more can be done. I am proud of you for even telling the federation about it. You are such a brave and strong person, and I truly look up to you, always.


Impossible is just a big word thrown around by small men who find it easier to live in the world they've been given than to explore the power they have to change it. Impossible in not a declaration, it's a dare.


#26179 - 10/20/03 02:17 PM Re: Is this success?
Mike Church Offline
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Registered: 01/23/03
Posts: 3439
Loc: Toronto, Canada
Leo dont think for one minute that this is not a sucess. It is my brother and by speaking up you have gained control for yourself and that is a truly remarkable thing to do.

You have a lot of courage my brother



#26180 - 10/20/03 02:21 PM Re: Is this success?
James_dup1 Offline

Registered: 04/13/02
Posts: 1332
Loc: Wyoming
It took great courage to tell them your story. Your a very brave brother. Yes it is a success!!!!!!!!!!! He can longer be alone with a child again. Because of you and this other person the next child is safe. Good job my brother.

I have more issues than Rolling Stone!

#26181 - 10/20/03 04:06 PM Re: Is this success?
outis Offline

Registered: 02/27/03
Posts: 2261
Loc: Maryland USA
he can not be alone with anyone under age of 18 years, ever, as coach with them


This is very much a success! Children who have never met him don't know how much they owe to you. Thank you so much for that. I hope you feel proud of what you did. I feel proud knowing that you did it.



"Telemachos, your guest is no discredit to you. I wasted no time in stringing the bow, and I did not miss the mark. My strength is yet unbroken…"—The Odyssey, translated by W.H.D. Rouse

#26182 - 10/20/03 06:34 PM Re: Is this success?
Lloydy Offline
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Registered: 04/17/02
Posts: 7071
Loc: England Shropshire
that is a terrific success, and it's down to the bravery of you and the other guy.

There's a good chance now that he's been punished other people will also say "He abused me as well"

What you've done is lead the way.


Go confidently in the direction of your dreams! Live the life you've imagined. As you simplify your life, the laws of the universe will be simpler.
Henry David Thoreau

#26183 - 10/20/03 09:38 PM Re: Is this success?
Andrew Offline
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Registered: 07/25/03
Posts: 1192
Good work Leosha. Maybe not the 'gold' victory you would have relished, but definitely a 'silver'. Peace, Andrew

there is no courage without anxiety

#26184 - 10/20/03 11:40 PM Re: Is this success?
The Dean Offline
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Registered: 07/15/02
Posts: 2080
Loc: Milwaukee, WI
Thanks Leosha, for the courage to break the silence and make other skaters safe. They will nev er know that they were not harmed because of you and your friend.

The coach knows he is on very thin ice now. Maybe he will seek some help for his problem. But at least, he won't be able to harm young guys without the danger of being ruined as a coach. You have done well.


If we do not live what we believe, then we will begin to believe what we live.

#26185 - 10/21/03 01:32 AM Re: Is this success?
Nathan LaChine Offline

Registered: 02/22/03
Posts: 5407
Loc: Washington State

Something is better then nothing my brother. At least with some people know they might be able to protect future children. You have saved future children you should be happy for them. As far as punishment I think the only correct punishment for them is death. They took away your life and they should loss their life. Sadly punishment for abusers has always been lacking. At least something was done about him Leosha, be thankful for that.

lots of love, Nathan

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