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#25310 - 02/19/04 09:18 AM 11 Days until possible no return/ Abuser gets completely released
mattandrew Offline

Registered: 04/26/01
Posts: 376
Loc: Florida
it is now almost 11 days until my abuser gets released from his final conviction and disposition with the Fla courts.My abuser has been supervised now for some time following a stretch in the big house even though it was not a long enough stay.

Original sentence: 7 years prison
10 years probation/parole

Total served 14 years

Damn system should have let him serve the entire sentence maybe just maybe they can get him on a Jimmy Ryce and have him committed to a psycho institution since most offenders are now being committed instead of letting them go free.All the registrations in the world for sex offenders won't help keep my abuser from re-offending it is just a matter of time and i sure hope I am there when he goes down for the last count but,until then I will be at the gun range every day from this point on fine tuning my sharp shooting skills.

It does not help right now that I am re-living the flashbacks of the abuse knowing how very soon things will be taking place as i will have to go back into court over the next 11 days and watch the inevitable happen when a judge lets yet another "Convicted Sex Offender go free"

Only catch is I had the department of law enforcement update my offenders information and photo on the net just with a phone call after their info being 4 years out of date so now I know what my perp looks like just in case should I need to watch my six.More as things progress over the next 11 days until then I live in the state of mind hell and the unknown.

M.A.N. ,
Boy who was trapped in society's nightmare & moving on thru healing & accountability.

#25311 - 02/19/04 10:58 AM Re: 11 Days until possible no return/ Abuser gets completely released
Leosha Offline

Registered: 06/18/03
Posts: 3614
Loc: Right here
I don't know what to say. I am so sorry for your pain and fears,and the frustration that I know many share with you. I wish there were something I can say that will make you feel better somehow, to feel safer and be more at peace with things right now. I hope that time will do that for you. I wish you well.


Avatar photo in memory of my younger brother Makar.

"Human salvation lies in the hands of the creatively maladjusted."~~~Martin Luther King Jr., 1963

#25312 - 02/19/04 02:45 PM Re: 11 Days until possible no return/ Abuser gets completely released
Mike Church Offline
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Registered: 01/23/03
Posts: 3439
Loc: Toronto, Canada
Mattandrew I hear a whole shit load of anger in your post and you have every right to be angry.

I have had the same kind of anger and I must take care not to direct it inwards. I have suggested this before to others. Grab a metal baseball bat and a friend and go find a big tree. Take your hostility and anger out on it. Wear gloves too because you might really get into it and you dont want your hands all bloody. Now I said a metal bat because a wooden bat can snap and you never know where a piece of it will go.

Why the friend. Well in case someone happens along he can explain that you are not a madman just a guy working out his anger. I mean they sure as hell would not believe you.

I have done that and wound up bawling my eyes out at the base of the tree. And I think the tree understood and was a willing partner in it.

When you get to the meeting be strong and tell it like it is. Tell them what it has done to you over the years and that you cannot be the only one. Just tell them all about the sicko.

And remember everyone here will be in the courtroom with you. You got an army on your side.




#25313 - 02/19/04 03:02 PM Re: 11 Days until possible no return/ Abuser gets completely released
crisispoint Offline

Registered: 09/24/03
Posts: 2154
Loc: Massachusetts

I am so sorry about this. And I'm sorry you feel such pain. If the world could only see what damage these animals cause, they'd never draw another completely free breath.

It doesn't sound like much, but we're all with you. We all understand.

Please don't do anything foolish. He's not worth it. He really isn't. I know you're afraid for the next one and the one after that, but honestly, would YOU want to spend one minute in jail for this piece of garbage? He will be watched, we know that now. And the next time he even THINKS about stepping out of line, someone will be there. They should've been there for you, I know, but they WILL be there for the next one.

Please PM me or one of the other brothers here if you need to, or you feel like you're about to lose control. I don't want you to be hurt anymore.

And we WILL be in the courtroom with you. There are some of us who WISH we could have the opportunity you will, despite the pain, despite everything.

Peace and love, my brother. We care. I care.


There are reasons I'm taking medication. They're called "other people." - Me, displaying my anti-social tendancies

#25314 - 02/19/04 07:01 PM Re: 11 Days until possible no return/ Abuser gets completely released
FlyWM Offline

Registered: 09/14/03
Posts: 322
Loc: Michigan
I can only imagine how difficult it is for you, but you can get through it. Sadly the perps only get some years of a sentence while we are sentenced to a life of suffering and fighting through the things. BUt I have to believe it is possible for a person to change, I hope your perp has changed and won't harm anyone again, perhaps I am being unrealistic, but I am trying to be optomistic. It must be so difficult, but you can make it through, and in time I am sure yu will feel more at peace. I wish you luck with everything you are going through.


Impossible is just a big word thrown around by small men who find it easier to live in the world they've been given than to explore the power they have to change it. Impossible in not a declaration, it's a dare.



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