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#252076 - 09/30/08 03:37 PM Re: Am I really gay [Re: Sans Logos]
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Registered: 06/19/04
Posts: 7821
Hi Toby,

I think the question of whether you're gay or not is not as important as the question of what you are comfortable with. If you feel comfortable dating much older men, then that's really all that's relevant, in my opinion. Society doesn't blink much of an eye at an older man with a young woman, but we all know that a young man with an older woman causes stares and whispers. But that's just society's hangups. All that really matters is whether you are happy or not. If you are, then there's your answer. Peace and good luck to you, friend.


#252080 - 09/30/08 04:14 PM Re: Am I really gay [Re: EGL]
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Registered: 09/05/07
Posts: 1392
Loc: Central Ohio
Wow Toby, you have gotten a lot of advice on this. Here is a bit more. (Just what you need, right? LOL)

Work on your recovery and do not about your sexuality. The two are so knotted up right now that you may need some time to separate the two and do some healing before you can look at this topic clearly.

Do not let yourself get stressed by this or put pressure on yourself to "make a decision." When you are ready, I think this will be clear to you.

Peace and love...


#252085 - 09/30/08 04:27 PM Re: Am I really gay [Re: feelingafraid]
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Registered: 01/26/07
Posts: 386
Loc: Ohio
Your sexuality is as unique as you are. You cannot put a label on that. Labels only create pain and confusion. I think everyone here would agree with that.



Guilt and shame have never done any of us any good at all.

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