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#242787 - 08/06/08 07:52 PM Re: Old survivors are jerks! [Re: petercorbett]
jcf1957 Offline

Registered: 09/11/07
Posts: 192
Loc: North Of The 49th Parallel
Well; I'm closing in near 51 years of age I guess you better count me in as another one of those old jerks.
I've been dealing with painful shit for the last thirty years.
Jason; I'm truly sorry you had to put up with such insult no matter how it was perceived. I think just the fact you were hurt by the remark in what ever context it was intended makes your post valid. Take Care

Edited by jcf1957 (08/06/08 07:52 PM)
No affliction nor temptation, no guilt nor power of sin, no wounded spirit nor terrified conscious should induce us to despair comfort from God.

Today well lived...makes every tomorrow a vision of Hope.

#242800 - 08/06/08 09:12 PM Re: Old survivors are jerks! *DELETED* [Re: Freedom49]
thecoopstah Offline

Registered: 07/19/04
Posts: 589
Loc: massachusetts
i'll tell you why people would say such a thing to you jason because they're fuckin crass and insensitive to your feelings and selfish of course.

I know how painful it is to "get over it" because for me it's been about 5 yrs since the memories re-surfaced and it still haunts me and makes me nuts.

You should never be treated in such a hurtful way.

You will never get over it will only able to move on when YOU"RE READY and not before.

Try your best and avoid those who think they have a right to be so nosey ....if someone asks you such a shallow and cruel question again ..........."that's none of your buisness it's my process and pain not yours"

God bless you pal and i wish you the best in your healing.


" You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have "

#243754 - 08/10/08 08:15 PM Re: Old survivors are jerks! [Re: JasonSmalls]
reality2k4 Offline

Registered: 07/06/04
Posts: 6845
Loc: Stuck between water, air, and ...
Hold on, if we don't get it! Who does?
The older guys were totally alone without
internet, so nobody to talk to, so I guess
it may just have been harder back then.

Nobody should say, just get over it, that is
for the john doh's of society.
It's hard to show emotions sometimes, but give
and take, and don't think the older guys did
not experience the same things as you,


Whoever stole the Sun, put it back and we'll drop all the charges!

#243850 - 08/11/08 05:34 AM Re: Old survivors are jerks! [Re: reality2k4]
Still Offline

Registered: 02/16/07
Posts: 7011
Loc: FEMA Region 1
enough already!

#243852 - 08/11/08 05:53 AM Re: Old survivors are jerks! [Re: Still]
Trucker51 Offline

Registered: 05/21/08
Posts: 2826
Loc: Denver, CO

I'll be 51 on Tuesday, and didn't learn to use the internet until a little over 3 years ago. It used to be a heck of a jump from individual counseling to an in-person group. These days that jump is a lot easier with the internet and this site. But, the internet is not as safe a place as many of us would like, I'm afraid. I'm sure that most all of us old guys just wanted to be supportive Jason. 33 years ago when I turned 18 the world was a different place. Vietnam was still on back then. Imagine facing the Vietnam-era draft at the age of 18? They cut out the draft lottery the year that I turned 17. Back then every guy was expected to be really tough and to be a man and to not complain. A lot of us older guys are still learning how to be sensitive. At least give us the benefit of the doubt.

Have hope,


"We stay here, we die here. We've got to keep moving". Trucker Mark

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