Thanks so much for your prayers and posts.
I went to bed very angry last night. I just was burning up with it.
This morning over the phone I told my H that maybe he ought to at least 'get his head straightened out' and talk to someone before deciding that it is indeed his wife that is making him so unhappy. You know what he said??? He said, "I was thinking to do that."
So a glimmer of hope sneaked in. Next week I will call around to find a T who specializes in csa - you don't want to get a know-nothing who just tells him he's gay or something.
Again, thank all of you for your help. I was truly at my bittermost end last night, just sooooooooooo eaten up with it.
It were better for him that a millstone were hanged around his neck, and he cast into the sea, than that he should offend one of these little ones.