My boyf and I have reconsidered our relationship. We talked maturely and openly and agreed that he would move out soon.Reasons: the need to break this " patient-therapist" kind of interaction, he needs to find himself and fight for it, I need to see that he takes the lead of his recovery, I have to get rid of my "Florence Nightingale" complex, and also I need to have my own emotional needs met.
We both see that this is the only way to achieve success as individuals in regard to our relationship and then, there is a big possibility of finally getting together succesfully as a couple (romantically speaking).But I feel terrible cos the closest it gets to separate, the more panicky, clingy and fearful he is becoming. I feel I am pushing him to his limit. I struggle between his needs and mine.. and feel selfish for thinking on me for the first time ever! yet I can't put up with my "Florence Nightingale" complex anymore. It is killing me ...
I am feeling guilty for "forcing" the only situation I can see can lead to success (so he could he see this, now he doubts it).
If we keep going this way, the relationship will end. That is for sure...
I am not sure if I am doing the right thing although it feels that way.
Edited by riviera (07/08/08 08:58 AM)