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#235441 - 07/03/08 01:58 PM Infantilism *** may trigger ***
AndyJB2005 Offline

Registered: 11/14/06
Posts: 1249
Loc: Minnesota
Does anyone have any experience in Infantilism or in lay terms "Adult Baby," or has known someone who was into this?

Here's an explanation:

I feel like a lot of people who were abused as infants or toddlers experience this in some form, but I have no citation to back it up. Just wondering if someone had the same experience? I believe there's a correlation between abuse at such young ages and Infantilism in adults, but I don't know for sure...

Life's disappointments are harder to take when you don't know any swear words. -- Calvin (Calvin and Hobbes)

#235444 - 07/03/08 02:09 PM Re: Infantilism *** may trigger *** [Re: AndyJB2005]
BJK Offline

Registered: 08/02/07
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I actually have the opposite problem. As someone who was abused quite heavily as an infant and a toddler, I am heavily triggered in a negative way by a lot of things infants and toddlers do. I can't bear to be in the vicinity of a diaper changing, for instance, and I'm absolutely repulsed by baby-drool.

These are things I am working on directly in EMDR at the moment, but I do believe that what you say is true. If a toddler or infant is abused sexually in a way that is enjoyable to the infant or toddler, it is pretty easy to extrapolate how that might affect that infant or toddler's "fetishes" as he or she grows up.

Revenge is nothing more than another way of perpetuating abuse.

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#235455 - 07/03/08 02:57 PM Re: Infantilism *** may trigger *** [Re: BJK]
feelingafraid Offline

Registered: 04/08/08
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Edited by feelingafraid (11/24/08 11:46 PM)
Hes a little boy let him be a little boy for the boy we never got to be.

#235469 - 07/03/08 03:56 PM Re: Infantilism *** may trigger *** [Re: AndyJB2005]
pufferfish Offline

Registered: 02/26/08
Posts: 6875
Loc: USA
Not infantilism

But I have had Peter Pan Syndrome

Caused by severe abuse especially at age 12.

It would be fun except that there was lots of anxiety and depression and apprehension with it.

Successfully treated by EMDR. Still have it some.


Edited by pufferfish (07/03/08 04:01 PM)

#235495 - 07/03/08 06:32 PM Re: Infantilism *** may trigger *** [Re: AndyJB2005]
ineffable Offline

Registered: 02/07/08
Posts: 1371
Loc: state of holeecrapdood

Why stop with our inner child when we can be an inner infant?

I knew a man who was an adult baby
Never gave much thought to whether it might have stemmed from abuse but thinking
about it now it could have (he died a few years ago from septic shock after a 2nd nose job... but that is another sad story)
I think powerlessness, control & helplessness have a lot to do with the appeal
As well as comfort, being taken care of & even disciplined
(my friend was a big gym gronk)
Maybe it's all in the diapers?

On another level trust has to be in there bigtime (I wrote a bit how basic trust is learned with "ma")
So perhaps with role playing?

I also read a great book years ago called "The Temptation of Innocence" by Pascal Bruckner that deals with
issues of responsibility & entitlement... (don't get me started on entitlement)
Infantilism figured into what he wrote about
He believes consumerism & victim mentality are major contributors as well

Hopefully this gave ya some food for thought?
(no mashed peas or strained carrots please)


ps... jolly jumpers rock

:: "Anyone who can handle a needle convincingly can make us see a thread which is not there" ::

#235725 - 07/04/08 02:57 PM Re: Infantilism *** may trigger *** [Re: BJK]
pufferfish Offline

Registered: 02/26/08
Posts: 6875
Loc: USA
I was abused at 4. What repelled me were incidental things of the perp. The kind of bedroom slippers he wore, the way he clipped his toe nails, etc. There was a certain shade of blue that kind of made me sick. It was surely something in my environment during that abuse. I have made a longer list but I can't remember most of them right now.


Edited by pufferfish (07/04/08 07:38 PM)


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