many of us men here have had similar problems. i am currently struggling with the issue of fantasies in a different context than what you stated, but the essential point is similar. survive75 put it best when he said our sexuality was forever altered by the abuse. recovery is a long journey, but with the support of your wife, and others such as those on this forum, the real good thing is that you know you are not alone. that, in and of itself, is one of the most important healing issues in recovery. we are all with you on this.
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