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#232070 - 06/20/08 02:26 AM Re: is rape harder for men than women [Re: An]
An Offline

Registered: 12/24/04
Posts: 151
Loc: usa
Tw- i couldn't get back to sleep with the thoughts that my first post could be taken that way so i just had to get up and delete it. It really bothered me that it could in anyway be taken that I meant males were active in intention more than females, it was too troubling and I am so glad you shared your reaction. I could have tired to modify it but I just wanted to step as far away as I could from that perception and so just completely deleted a post for the first time. thank you again for letting me know-

#232073 - 06/20/08 02:43 AM Re: is rape harder for men than women [Re: An]
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Registered: 07/19/06
Posts: 508
oh no. i am so sorry. i was definitely "interpreting" it to point out that it could be read that way. but i was certainly not claiming (or feeling) any sort of malevolence on your part. its just that, in our culture, we are trained from day one to see male/female as so essentially different. and it becomes really natural to make comparisons about how and why we are different.

but please, get some sleep and understand that i meant no harm or hurt or anything. your posts were very honest and they shouldn't bring you any discomfort. much love, tw

#232301 - 06/20/08 10:43 PM Re: is rape harder for men than women [Re: mara]
lostcowboy Offline

Registered: 11/10/04
Posts: 798
Loc: Rhode Island
Hi all, I have been away for a while. I think that Rape is hard on anybody. CSA to me is very different than rape. I think that I was lucky that I did not experience CSA. I think that I was lucky that I was not raped by someone that I knew and loved. Yes I was lucky that I was raped by a stranger. I was lucky that it only happened once.
I had to make the decision do I continue to struggle and die, or do I stop struggling and live. When it was all done with, I knew I had made the wrong choose. Even today there are times when I am sure I made the wrong choose.

"Don't walk in front of me, I may not follow. Don't walk behind me, I may not lead. Just walk beside me and be my friend." - Albert Camus
Pretty much my life as I have posted so far. Triggers!

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