...any advice on reversing the sexual triggers that cause a guy to look for simailr patterns to there abuse[?]
Should I be surprised that answering that question does not appear to be at or near the top of everyone's list of keys to recovery?
I started a thread about that recently ("My Flashback Experience")
and came up with a way of 'reprocessing' the traumatic experiences during
flashbacks, and the key (for me at least) is being proud of the flashback experience by sharing it with others who are close to me as well as bringing it here. I think the best word to describe how one might go about sharing the reality of the flashback experience with anyone we want would be to share it, "shamelessly".
It is already widely accepted and understood that flashbacks are caused by the failure to properly process the traumatic experience initially (which is of course no fault of our own). Thus it is logical to expect that resolution should or could be the result of using each other as well as professionals as a resource to properly process the emotions that we re-experience during the flashback period, and understanding that your thought process (beliefs) need to be replaced or, "updated". Until the beliefs and subsequent emotions that are intrinsic to the flashback experience are processed successfully, they will persist.
I think I killed the thread by over-intellectualizing it too soon, but feel free to bring it back to life or better yet, start your own!