Marissa, having recently done unwise confrontation type things to myself, I can see Hg's point on this.
At the same time though, on the occasions when it's necessary for me to talk about it, quite often the most helpful thing for me is questions. i've quite often asked my T, ---- and a couple of times asked my friends to ask me some questions about the abuse or whatever else I want to considder but am having trouble getting out.
Questions are something I feel much more comfortable with than just with someone sitting there and listening like an open hole, questions help me focus my thoughts and let me know what I should be replying to, which is very good for staarting discusssions of some of the bad stuff, ----- though of course this falls down with some things which are so bad I physically can't talk about them, so it's by no means a fool proof method.
this has been my experience anyway, and I really hope it's helpful.