Wisdom is a tough one. I am still not sure I know what it means. But I'm only a young pup. Maybe I'll know when I'm 80 years old. Until then, best I can do is think it through.
Is wisdom without knowledge possible? Yeah but it wouldn't be useful without knowledge. I think it's still kind of just like knowledge. It's like in common speech, if we know an old timer knows a lot, we say "He's very wise".
Knowledge helps you understand and make meaningful what has happened to you. So yeah, knowledge is power. It is a tool we use to help us solve life's problems. Wisdom is great too.
Maybe wisdom is just that state of mind that comes when you not only know a whole shitload, you also know how to use that shitload of knowledge to make life go well in a very general sense. When I talk with Roger and other guys here who've been around and have the benefit of a whole shitload of knowledge and how to make life go well, I get that sense of 'wisdom' from them. For my own recovery, wisdom is going to be when I know the best times to listen, and when to talk, when to act, and when to observe, when to be still, and when to act. Since starting recovery it's like I'm a kid relearning the whole life thing. I'm not there yet. But it'll come (how wise of me to say!).
I've never been to a pedophile recovery website but ewe, man, it sounds gross and you've got a lot of guts read that stuff. I loved when you said you 'need to know your perpetrator'. That makes perfect sense to me. If you ever want to share that knowledge in a thread I'll certainly read it. The only issue I see in reading those particular guys is that while reading it I have to keep in mind these are 'recovering' pedophiles and, bless them, but they may be very different kinds of guys than the hard core 'non recovering' types. I'd like to know if they fear capture, what makes them fear capture and disclosure, what triggers them, what makes them angry, what makes them act irrationaly, or disclose themselves, and so on.
I've spent some time using Google Scholar to search out whatever I can find on perpetrators. They are part of the abuse scenario and so if I want to understand the 'whole thing' then knowing these guys is part of the task. What I've learned is that these guys very often are drunks, are addicts, can very often have multiple victims, may be married, ... you get the drift. Not a lot of overly useful stuff yet. But it'll come.
PS Roger isn't an 'old timer' age wise. I think he's 38 isn't he?