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#222529 - 05/05/08 01:23 AM Slump
Freedom49 Offline

Registered: 12/31/07
Posts: 2724
Loc: Washington State
Ok I have been in kind of a slump. I have had lots of time on my hands lately and with therapy and the boards I got deep into my little phyche and dug around a bit. Found some rather smelly stuff that has been forgotten and rotting in corner or two. Posted the autopsy here and there and now I am kind of sick of forensics at the moment.

I have decided I need to back off a bit from my stuff. I always feel better when I am helping someone else through there stuff. My wife has agreed to work with me on some of our personal things and we have had some really honest talks that have helped.

If something comes up in me that I feel I need to take care of I will do that but I will not be opening anymore boxes for a while in my little mental attic.

Edited by Freedom49 (05/05/08 01:24 AM)

#222532 - 05/05/08 01:31 AM Re: Slump [Re: Freedom49]
Thomas J Offline

Registered: 11/22/07
Posts: 83
Loc: Oklahoma
sry i dunno what t say. but if u wanna talk i can do that. tj

#222533 - 05/05/08 01:34 AM Re: Slump [Re: Freedom49]
WalkingSouth Offline

Registered: 08/30/05
Posts: 16270
Loc: Waldport, Oregon

You have indeed been hitting it hard. You're wise to try to slow it down a little and smell the roses. Certainly the mind needs a vacation from the smell in those corners. Just take care of you and if you stumble across something you want some help with, don't fail to give us a shout.

Lots of love,


"Life's journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, shouting 'Holy Shit! What a ride!'" ~Hunter S. Thompson

#222536 - 05/05/08 02:25 AM Re: Slump [Re: WalkingSouth]
EGL Offline
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Registered: 06/19/04
Posts: 7821
Hey, Roger, friend. This stuff is a lot to deal with, and trying to do too much at once can just through you into overload. It will melt the emotions down and leave you in a puddle. Pacing yourself through this is really important, working on only as much as you feel you can at the moment. If you need to take occasional breaks from it (and I think that EVERYONE needs to take occasional breaks), then please do so and remember that you have a lot of friends here that will hear you and understand you.


#222552 - 05/05/08 03:57 AM Re: Slump [Re: EGL]
Brian Offline
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Registered: 05/03/01
Posts: 1563
Loc: Upstate NY

For the last few months, I have been reading all the great advice and insight you have shared with others. It's great to help other people but let us not forget about taking care of ourselves! It's good to see that you are able to give (and follow) some of that great advice yourself!


Recovery is Possible!

#222568 - 05/05/08 05:50 AM Re: Slump [Re: Freedom49]
jcf1957 Offline

Registered: 09/11/07
Posts: 192
Loc: North Of The 49th Parallel
I've had the privilege of reading numerous post of yours, including a number of which you have added to mine. You are a valued friend and I always welcome your insight. I understand what you mean by taking a break from this site which can be emotionally draining at times. I hope you find some rest and peace and await your return. In fraternal love; Chris

Edited by jcf1957 (05/05/08 05:51 AM)
No affliction nor temptation, no guilt nor power of sin, no wounded spirit nor terrified conscious should induce us to despair comfort from God.

Today well lived...makes every tomorrow a vision of Hope.

#222579 - 05/05/08 09:29 AM Re: Slump [Re: Freedom49]
Hourglass52 Offline

Registered: 04/16/08
Posts: 59
Loc: New York
A counselor told me it is normal, and healthy to take recovery in steps. You are rite on track with this.

" This above all: To thine own self be true" (William Shakespeare).

#222600 - 05/05/08 02:44 PM Re: Slump [Re: Hourglass52]
KENKEN Offline

Registered: 09/25/07
Posts: 762

You are such a helper and have such great wisdon for all your friends here at MS. It is so good of you to be here for all of us. Now you need to take care of you and your family. Take all the time you need. You are very a very important person. Your health and well being comes before your friends.



From the Movie: Antwone Fisher


#222605 - 05/05/08 03:47 PM Re: Slump [Re: KENKEN]
JustScott Offline
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Registered: 01/28/08
Posts: 2615
Loc: Central PA

I love you Roger!

I've learned as well that too many open boxes = too much to deal with = overwhelming feelings and emotions.

Definitely step back and take your time as you need to. Helping others feels good for me too. I find myself going back and forth in my modes. I'll be in help everyone else mode for awhile and then shift into focusing on myself and my own issues for awhile. I think those breaks in dealing with our own issues is needed, and during those breaks we can take what we learned from ourselves and help others along.

Take whatever time you need. I'm here for you anytime you need a shoulder.


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