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#21975 - 11/20/02 09:30 PM HB 2 Me
Don-NY Offline

Registered: 08/06/02
Posts: 546
Loc: Long Island, NY


This is how I felt at work yesterday.

Ashes, The Rain, and I
--Joe Walsh

Sometimes I sit and I stare at the rain
Isn't rain filled with sorrow?
Wonder if I'll see my home again
Will it be dry tomorrow?

Time passes softly and I'm a day older
But still I m living days gone by
Ashes to ashes, the rain's turning colder
Finding tomorrow, the ashes, the rain and I
Then I went to see my nephew and neice. I haven't seen them in 8 days. I have never been apart from them this long before. They smothered me with their love. He is 12, she is 3. They fought over who would talk to me.

She won. She ran to me, and hugged me, and hugged me and said, "Where have you been? I missed you so much". She wouldn't let go. I was standing there, holding her, and hugging her. My arms are weak from my condition. Finally, I said "Do you want me to put you down now?" She said, "No, I'm not finished hugging you yet. Wait".

I had tears in my eyes, and then my sister did, and then my nephew.

I had a wonderful time over there.

Then I returned to this apartment. And these words came to my mind.

Darkness, Darkness
--the Erik Burden version

Darkness, darkness
Be my pillow
Take me in and let me sleep
In the coolness of the shadow
In the silence of the deep

Darkness, darkness
Hide my yearning for the things that cannot be
Keep my mind from constant turning
Towards the thing that cannot see
Thing that cannot see,
Thing that cannot see.

Darkness, darkness
Long and lonesome is the day that brings me everything
I have felt the edge of sorrow,
I have known the depth of fear.

Darkness, darkness
Be my blanket
Trouble me with your endless night,
Take away, take away, take away the pain of knowing
Fill the emptiness with bright
Emptiness with bright,
Emptiness with bright

Darkness, darkness
Be my blanket
Take me in and cover me
Take away, take away, take away the pain of knowing
Fill the emptiness with bright,
Emptiness with bright,
Emptiness with bright
Emptiness, loneliness
Take away
Emptiness, loneliness
Take away
My sorrow
I remember back in sixth grade (1964). Mr. K. said we would all be alive when the century changed. He asked what we would be then.

Someone said, President. Someone said a nurse. There were doctors, lawyers, teachers, and on and on.

When it was my turn, I said, "48".

I made it. And now it is two years later.

Devon is right. Sometimes, I want to find my inner child, and kick his little ass. But just for a second.

I don't remember where I read it, but there's a story about a grandmother and two grandchildren. One is a perfect little gentleman; smart, kind, obedient. The other is a disaster; rude, loud, always in trouble.

The grandmother pats the "good" child on the head and kisses him whenever she sees him and treats him very nicely, but she lavishes attention on the "beast child". She gives him treats, and ignores his awful behavior, and keeps doing things to try and please him.

The years pass, and one day the "good" child asks his grandmother, "Why? Why did you spend so much time and effort on him? He cursed at you, he didn't listen, he hurt and defied you all the time, any way he could. Why did you give him so much love? Why?"

"Oh, dear child, don't you see? Because he needed it so much more."

I have been a mess lately. My health, my job, turning 50, a serious legal problem - I could lose everything, and the worst would be the safety and security I have spent 27 years working for, for my future, and the current status and future of my mother, sisters, and brother.

Elizabeth kissed me again yesterday. On the lips. A birthday kiss, but is there more? Maybe, but I think, not now - not yet- I am not ready. Will I ever be? We are going out Friday night. Her birthday is in two weeks. We will honor(?), celebrate(?) both. She knows my story, my whole story. Is this sympathy and empathy or something more. It doesn't matter really. I know she will understand, no matter what.

It has been too much to bear. I was fractured. Now I am just scattered.

But today the sun is shining bright. And I logged in here, and there was a great gift.

A post from Erik (arghilles). I had to reply to him. I was compelled. I truly like him, from a handful of posts. I don't care what he looks like. I don't even care if he is for real, or telling the truth, not that I have any reason to doubt. I just wanted to help him somehow.

LLoydy, I'm not hiding. But there are things on-line I must stay away from. You know what I mean.

Sleepy, I'll get back to you soon. After Friday, I think.

I have to go now. Work to be done. Take care everyone.

Happy Birthday, Dear Donald (Don, Donnie, Uncle Donald, U.D)
Happy Birthday to you!

Beautiful Day

The heart is a bloom
Shoots up through the stony ground
There's no room
No space to rent in this town

You're out of luck
And the reason that you had to care
The traffic is stuck
And you're not moving anywhere

You thought you'd found a friend
To take you out of this place
Someone you could lend a hand
In return for grace

It's a beautiful day
Sky falls, you feel like
It's a beautiful day
Don't let it get away

You're on the road
But you've got no destination
You're in the mud
In the maze of her imagination

You love this town
Even if that doesn't ring true
You've been all over
And it's been all over you

It's a beautiful day
Don't let it get away
It's a beautiful day

Touch me
Take me to that other place
Teach me
I know I'm not a hopeless case

See the world in green and blue
See China right in front of you
See the canyons broken by cloud
See the tuna fleets clearing the sea out
See the Bedouin fires at night
See the oil fields at first light
And see the bird with a leaf in her mouth
After the flood all the colors came out

It was a beautiful day
Don't let it get away
Beautiful day

Touch me
Take me to that other place
Reach me
I know I'm not a hopeless case

What you don't have you don't need it now
What you don't know you can feel it somehow
What you don't have you don't need it now
Don't need it now
Was a beautiful day
** You can be captain of your ship, but not of the sea**

If you understand everything, some things are just as they are. If you understand nothing, things are still just as they are.

#21976 - 11/20/02 10:38 PM Re: HB 2 Me
Lloydy Offline
Administrator Emeritus
Registered: 04/17/02
Posts: 7071
Loc: England Shropshire
have fun with your family, be cool and come back soon.

Lloydy \:\) \:\)

Go confidently in the direction of your dreams! Live the life you've imagined. As you simplify your life, the laws of the universe will be simpler.
Henry David Thoreau

#21977 - 11/21/02 12:44 AM Re: HB 2 Me
Cement Offline

Registered: 06/05/02
Posts: 740
Loc: Southern California
Happy Birthday, Don.

peace and joy to all

And let the darkness fear our light.

#21978 - 11/21/02 02:50 AM Re: HB 2 Me
Wuamei Offline

Registered: 08/19/02
Posts: 2700
Loc: The left turn I should have ta...

Happy Birthday! \:\)

"I can't stand pain. It hurts me."
--Daffy Duck

#21979 - 11/21/02 03:49 AM Re: HB 2 Me
Ken Singer, LCSW Offline

Registered: 08/24/00
Posts: 5781
Loc: Lyons, CO USA
Sometimes your posts are poetry, sometimes very touching, sometimes thought-provoking. Tonite, all of the above. Happy birthday. Ask your niece or nephew to give you a hug for me.

Blissfully retired after 35 years treating sexual abuse

#21980 - 11/21/02 03:58 AM Re: HB 2 Me
The Dean Offline
Moderator Emeritus
Registered: 07/15/02
Posts: 2080
Loc: Milwaukee, WI
Hello Don,

What a beautiful tribute to family and what a treasure it can be. Sounds like you are loved a lot.

I pray that the problems you refer to will be a positive in the end.

There are days when I can still remember what it was like to turn 50. There is a certain bit of wisdom in having reached that blessed age.

Enjoy Don.


If we do not live what we believe, then we will begin to believe what we live.

#21981 - 11/21/02 05:15 AM Re: HB 2 Me
Sleepy Offline

Registered: 10/08/02
Posts: 288
Loc: Arizona, USA
Happy birthday Uncle Don!
My neice and nephew keep me going. They're 8 and 10, respectively. When my niece would climb on my lap to watch a movie or when I would go on a bike ride with my nephew it would make me feel happy. So as long as I can make a positive impact on them, then my life has meaning right now. And that is important. Take care tonight Don and take your time with your reply.
With love,

"It is good to have an end to journey toward; but it is the journey that matters, in the end."
--Ursula K. Le Guin

"Mental health is a commitment to reality at all times."
--M. Scott Peck

#21982 - 11/21/02 01:45 PM Re: HB 2 Me
mTm Offline
Junior Member

Registered: 10/26/02
Posts: 14
Loc: Dallas Texas
Happy "Boy"thday Don
God Bless You


#21983 - 11/21/02 05:09 PM Re: HB 2 Me
JamesMichael Offline

Registered: 07/24/02
Posts: 134
Happy (belated) Birthday Donald.

#21984 - 11/22/02 07:11 AM Re: HB 2 Me
Stephen_5 Offline
BoD Emeritus
Registered: 09/12/00
Posts: 667
Loc: Northern California Foothills

(just sing along)

Take good care of yourself,


I want to stay as close to the edge as I can without going over. Out on the edge you see all kinds of things you can't see from the center.
Kurt Vonnegut (1922-2007)


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