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#218436 - 04/15/08 10:54 PM Re: Intimacy [Re: dark empathy]
Magoo Offline

Registered: 04/04/08
Posts: 48
Loc: far, far away
Hey Jeff!
I'm from NYC too. Just moved to Dallas 2 weeks ago for a job. Getting hard to live there, but I miss it.



#218504 - 04/16/08 08:58 AM Re: Intimacy [Re: dark empathy]
Jeff Amsel Offline

Registered: 04/14/08
Posts: 17
Loc: NJ
You have brought out the MOST defining characteristic of my personality. The ability to hide fear thru comedy. When I walked out on stage.....nothing scared me. After the show, many younger woman thought it fashionable to be my friend, and getting them into bed was easy. I was the STAR......some of those relationships last for weeks, but I broke them all off because of this fear of intimacy. I became terrified of just being in their company. So....I left them, and went on to find another/more. This behavior is what I do not understand, and want to change. I will do almost anything to achieve this.
I stay silent because of emarrassment and shame. Easier NOT to talk about it. I DONT KNOW HOW NOT TO DO THIS.

#218505 - 04/16/08 08:58 AM Re: Intimacy [Re: Magoo]
Jeff Amsel Offline

Registered: 04/14/08
Posts: 17
Loc: NJ
Good Luck deserve it'

#218506 - 04/16/08 09:22 AM Re: Intimacy [Re: Jeff Amsel]
hogan_dawg Offline

Registered: 03/26/08
Posts: 492
Jeff - vulnerability is the key I think - the problem is, once you're vulnerable with women you're likely to get laid again.


Being vulnerable means you might get abandoned and you have to take a leap of faith.

It's worth it.

I can say unequivocally that the lie of "To truly heal you must first forgive" has derailed more victims than the abusers themselves.
Andrew Vachs, 2003

#218586 - 04/16/08 04:48 PM Re: Intimacy [Re: Freedom49]
JT's the Man Offline

Registered: 02/21/08
Posts: 41
I have to thank Larry, for what he said here... I will have to think about it for myself. Ask yourself why you are afraid...


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