Let me just say here publicly; i don't have a problem with people PMing me in chat, if they're "just checking in", or need to chat about something they don't want everyone in the room to hear- but please don't PM me in chat, unless there's something specific or urgent on your mind! I tend to type slowly, and don't hit "Enter" after every three words, and actually stop to consider my posts/responses; so having a general "room" post, or "PM" post, cut in half, and appearing in the wrong place, can be irritating. Alright, i'll stop ranting now...
Give sorrow words: the grief that does not speak
Whispers the o'er-fraught heart and bids it break.
-William Shakespeare, Macbeth, Act IV, Sc. III