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#211927 - 03/20/08 10:20 PM empathy, distance and mutual healing
dark empathy Offline

Registered: 11/26/07
Posts: 2694
Loc: durham, north england
A helm of steel,
a coat of male,
a shield gleaming in the sun,
a strong vambrace,
a hidden face,
to never bleed and never burn.

to wait before,
the guarded door,
to ward you from a night of fears,
to take the bloe,
to face your foe,
to turn aside your tide of tears.

I'll face your hell,
I'll make you well,
I'll swear your honour to protect,
I'll staunch your wound,
I'll turn things round,
In my armour there's no effect.

I'll learn your pain,
I'll burn your flame,
for I can feel your hurt too much,
I'll not reffuse,
Your call to arms,
But in my steel we'll never touch.

I wear my mask,
my noble task,
a captain bold who's always true,
and yet benieth,
my steel sheeth,
I'm just as hurt and scarred as you.

but I've my mail,
that without fail,
will let me stand the arrows shaft,
So I'll fight,
upon your side,
but I'll never throw it off.

And yet it's torn,
My armours worn,
My shining steel's naught bbut tin,
My strength is vane,
My distance feigned,
You see the scars run oer my skin.

Yet I still feel,
the need to heal,
to face your foe and dry your tears,
I'm not bold,
yet I will stand,
and for you I'll confront my fears.

there is no shame,
To show my pain,
Just as I know there's none in yours,
And hand in hand,
with you I'll stand,
and together we'll compare our scars.

the hands of the king are the hands of a healer, and so the rightful king should ever be known.

#211932 - 03/20/08 10:28 PM Re: empathy, distance and mutual healing [Re: dark empathy]
roadrunner Offline
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Registered: 05/02/05
Posts: 22045
Loc: Carlisle, PA

Very nice indeed. I especially like the ending. That's one of the first things we have to learn as real survivors: that there is no shame in revealing the fact that we are hurting and in terrible pain.

Much love,

Nobody living can ever stop me
As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me.
(Woody Guthrie)

#212063 - 03/21/08 10:15 AM Re: empathy, distance and mutual healing [Re: roadrunner]
dark empathy Offline

Registered: 11/26/07
Posts: 2694
Loc: durham, north england
Thank you Larry.

This one came from an odd realization I had. I've always desired to deal with other people's pain more than my own, ---- I'm sorry if that sounds really boastful or anything of the sort, it's just genuinely the way I feel.

but even though I'll do anything for someone who's hurting, there's always been a distance, ----- a cut off point. I feel the fact that the other person is hurting, but I'm removed in some way, much as if I was wearing a mask or steel armour.

there's a friend of mine who's quite frank about the fact that she sometimes feels very upset. I've felt incredibly sorry for her, but there's always been this distance betwene us. when i saw her on Wednesday, I found that the distance was gone, and that I could admit to her that I was hurting, how worthless I've always felt, and that things were not going well at the moment (though I didn't tell her the cause).

Her reply was "I'd have never thought it, you always struck me as such a confident person who enjoys life" which I have to believe is her being nice, sinse if I entertain the possibility that this is her genuine thoughts I'll be seriously hurt.

As a result, I now feel much closer to her than I did before, and I hope that this will make me a better friend to her, as well as her to me.


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