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#210012 - 03/11/08 06:27 AM Sex Addicts: Please Read. Thanks! :-)
AndyJB2005 Offline

Registered: 11/14/06
Posts: 1249
Loc: Minnesota
Someone on here told me, in their wisdom, that most sex addiction is usually misdiagnosed "by fundamentalist Christians" and/or made up in the persons head. I disagree.

Any sex addicts (12-steppin' or not) like to chime in on this?

For me, I know I'm a sex addict...have been since 4th or 5th grade. When a kid that age is compulsively touching ALL his friends, it's not just a "stage."

Life's disappointments are harder to take when you don't know any swear words. -- Calvin (Calvin and Hobbes)

#210028 - 03/11/08 11:16 AM Re: Sex Addicts: Please Read. Thanks! :-) [Re: AndyJB2005]
spirit of winter Offline
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Registered: 02/09/08
Posts: 19
Loc: Weaver Alabama
Made up? I don't by that for a minute, and neither should you. Why? There could be many reasons - an acting out for attention of the sort a person was misinformed of by abuse, an acting out for an unconscious call for help, or maybe inside they are lost and are hunting for something on the outside that they are midding on the inside. The reasons are many and each individual from person to person.

My addiction was to porn. So i can't relate feelings with you. But the more i understand and recover from my abuse, the more i recover from my addiction.

Christianity i have a lot of problems with, and take almost everything they say with a grain of salt. Belive in Christ and the Bible - Yes i do. Believe in the teachings of the all mighty church - no i don't. Religion throught he centuries has been a tool of the upper classes in control of the population, and a lot of that "control" teaching has been carried throught eh centuries to our time. So don't believe everything the christians say, they are like us abused in that they have recieved a lot of misconception, misinterpretation, lies, and preaching is subject to the preachers own beliefs. An d i apologize to any christians who may take offense, but my point in short is - don't take everyone elses word for it; read, study, and find the truth for yourself.

Regardless of past action, you are a good person - man, and i wish you the best on your journey.

I want to be me. I want to be whole. I want to be the loving person me and my wife and family deserve. Mostly I want to feel like I deserve to live without fear of people, of who I am, of intimacy, and without fear of a past I canít change.

#210029 - 03/11/08 12:18 PM Re: Sex Addicts: Please Read. Thanks! :-) [Re: spirit of winter]
Freedom49 Offline

Registered: 12/31/07
Posts: 2724
Loc: Washington State
I have to agree with SoW. My addiction was also to porn, anonymous sex, and I was fixated on it as a way of coping and dealing with stress. There were other factors too. I appreciate their opinion but the subject is much more complicated and my local churchs I have noticed are starting to accept that and offer programs to reach out and help. Two of whicn I am currently involved with.

#210040 - 03/11/08 01:34 PM Re: Sex Addicts: Please Read. Thanks! :-) [Re: Freedom49]
johnnymike Offline

Registered: 03/08/08
Posts: 56
Loc: Central Ohio
I remember being very precocious as a child. I did not have sex with a peer until I was 15 and the thought in my head was that I had missed some good years. Later as an adult I became an out of control sex addict. I had much anonymous sex. Bookstores, parks and male prostitues along with friends and others. I also became addicted to phone chat lines. My addiction was causing issues both for my health and finances. Luckily I remained disease free but with my behaviors that is amazing.

Yes sexual addiciton exists. I was at the point where I was beginning to worry about what it was going to take to find those greater sexual thrills. Another strange component of my addiction is that during my adult abuse and hating my abuser I began to ask others to do the things he did or threatened. My mind twisted in odd ways.

#210151 - 03/11/08 10:14 PM Re: Sex Addicts: Please Read. Thanks! :-) [Re: johnnymike]
JT's the Man Offline

Registered: 02/21/08
Posts: 41
I am a sex addict.

It is so so strong and I am finally trying to overcome it.
Any prayers for victims of this affliction are appreciated.


#210166 - 03/11/08 11:11 PM Re: Sex Addicts: Please Read. Thanks! :-) [Re: AndyJB2005]
EGL Offline
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Registered: 06/19/04
Posts: 7821
Originally Posted By: AndyJB2005
Someone on here told me, in their wisdom, that most sex addiction is usually misdiagnosed "by fundamentalist Christians" and/or made up in the persons head.

That's so strange as to be laughable. Try telling that to Elliott Spitzer's wife today.


#210171 - 03/12/08 12:05 AM Re: Sex Addicts: Please Read. Thanks! :-) [Re: EGL]
MagRaith Offline

Registered: 12/24/07
Posts: 69
Loc: Salt Lake City, UT
I remember something Roger said in a post some time back that smacked me over the head because it was exactly my experience. My Dad told me outright that the only thing I was good for was sex. When you are 4 years old and start hearing that up through your teen years you believe it. You believe that the only way you will identify with another human being is through sex. And so sex becomes your obsession as you try to connect. Of course, it doesn't work, but you don't know that, you just keep trying and trying at every opportunity. I would call this sex addiction, and it is definitely NOT something I made up in my head. I was taught that by a man who was a leader in the religious community, who hid behind his religion. How can anyone who has suffered CSA not be obsessed with sex, whether too much of it or too little.


#210177 - 03/12/08 01:02 AM Re: Sex Addicts: Please Read. Thanks! :-) [Re: MagRaith]
KeithR Offline

Registered: 10/28/06
Posts: 363
Loc: Georgia
There is no way that I believe sex addiction is a made up condition. I agree with all that others have said. It is a very destructive conditon. Keith

#210194 - 03/12/08 03:21 AM Re: Sex Addicts: Please Read. Thanks! :-) [Re: KeithR]
ericc Offline

Registered: 01/05/08
Posts: 1986
I know my CSA put me in a bad spot in regards to sex. I think it pretty much screwed things up for me. Not sure what to make of my sexual experiences afterwards, other than some were destructive and some were maybe better. But I was messed up at that point. I have a lot of sexual thoughts, but unable to form any healthy sexual relations for a long time. Not even sure how, so I am just trying to take care of myself and see where things lead.

#210272 - 03/12/08 03:56 PM Re: Sex Addicts: Please Read. Thanks! :-) [Re: AndyJB2005]
mike5 Offline

Registered: 08/01/07
Posts: 171
Loc: Cleveland, OH
Originally Posted By: AndyJB2005
Someone on here told me, in their wisdom, that most sex addiction is usually misdiagnosed "by fundamentalist Christians" and/or made up in the persons head. I disagree.

I disagree too. Can't say how ridiculous that sounds - I always thought it was a ruse perpetuated by a secret society lead by the federal reserves of the member nations of the UN security council. Fundamentalist christians aren't secret, so it can't be them! On the other hand, denial is very powerful, so I could be wrong.


P.S. Just ordered some of those cool sunglasses on ebay. Those, along with my tinfoil hat, should protect me from misdiagnoses.

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