Reading "All Lies" has helped me a great deal with the garbage my abuser told me (and I believed), but I also really need the flip-side. Namely what is true.
Henceforth, here are the things I tell myself and I wish someone had told the 11-12 year old me. Please feel free to add if I missed anything. I will do the same.
We need to hear and tell The Truth!
It wasn't your fault.
You didn't "ask for it."
You didn't "enjoy" the abuse.
You are a good person.
You had your innocence betrayed.
You are good.
You are normal.
You are capable of loving.
You are loved.
You are safe.
The abuser cannot hurt you anymore.
They took the power away from you.
You are taking the power back.
You can and will heal.
You are healing now.
You are better than the abuse.
You are better than the abuser.
You are strong.
You did what you had to do to survive.
You are worthy of love, and there are others worthy of your love.
You do NOT have to be hurt.
You do NOT have to "put up with the abuse."
You can hate your abuser.
You can forgive, but only when YOU'RE ready.
You can cry.
You can laugh.
Life is beautiful.
Life is wonderful.
Believe in yourself.
It did happen.
There are people who care.
There are people who love you and will love you unconditionally.
You are special.
You are worth something, and you don't have to prove it.
I hope this helps someone. As the song says, "when you get the choice to sit it out or dance, I hope you dance."
God knows we all deserve that.
Peace and love,