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#207374 - 02/25/08 06:59 PM Still around
violet Offline

Registered: 08/13/07
Posts: 118
Loc: US
Yeah, I'm still around. I've just been busy. On some levels, things with my husband are so improved. It's been rough for his family though, not speaking to the abuser anymore after his family was told. And some extended family members who were told of the abuse feel in the middle.

I still can't help feeling sorry for the abuser and my SIL thinks I am nuts for thinking this. It's not that I want to invite him over, but we are fairly certain that he was a victim of abuse himself. I just hope he gets over his denial and finds help for himself. I wonder if he told his wife the true reason why all of his family here no longer speaks to him.

Still no therapy for spouse, but at least he reads about it. At this point, I think that's as good as it's gonna get. He has taken a lot of what he's read to heart and I can see a real marked difference in not only his behavior but his self-esteem.

Hope healing and peace to each of you,

I was silent as a child, and silenced as a young woman; I am taking my lumps and bumps for being a big mouth, now, but usually from those whose opinion I don't respect. - Sandra Cisneros

#207378 - 02/25/08 07:07 PM Re: Still around [Re: violet]
Trish4850 Offline
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Registered: 10/15/05
Posts: 3280
Loc: New Jersey
It's nice to hear from you V. Yeah, I can only imagine that the situation with family must be terribly difficult. All you can do it take care of your own for the moment. If it branches out, ok, deal then, but for now, keep on keeping things close.

I'm glad things are going well for you and your husband. Don't worry about the therapy. Your husband will do it when and if he feels the need. The fact that he's open to learning and sharing with you is enough for now.

ROCK ON........Trish

If you fall down 10 times, Stand up 11.

#207424 - 02/25/08 09:40 PM Re: Still around [Re: violet]
WalkingSouth Offline

Registered: 08/30/05
Posts: 16269
Thanks for checking in Violet. You're feelings of compassion do not go misplaced. It is a pathetic and sad situation and a little compassion to go hand in hand with justice is the better course in my opinion.

I wish you and he every courage as you continue with the difficulties you face.

Lots of love,


"Life's journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, shouting 'Holy Shit! What a ride!'" ~Hunter S. Thompson


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