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#204465 - 02/10/08 04:50 AM New and afraid
Adam35 Offline
New Here

Registered: 02/10/08
Posts: 1
Loc: Washington DC
Hello All, I'm new to the site and i'm a survivor of sexual abuse. My father molested me beginning at the age of 5 and lasted till I was 20. However I had no idea that the incest was happening thanks to having DID. During this time frame I also was sexual abused by a family friend that carried on for 5 yrs. I feel very alone and I need to make sure I'm not the only one. I have been in and out of therapy all of my life, some good and some not so good.

Anyway, I am here and I hope that I can find some peace with everything. I’m not asking for a miracle, I just want to know if there’s hope for survivors.

#204468 - 02/10/08 05:21 AM Re: New and afraid [Re: Adam35]
Scoutvictim Offline

Registered: 06/04/07
Posts: 434
Loc: St. Louis, Missouri

Welcome to MS, I am glad you found us, but I'm sorry you need this place.

This site is made up of a great group of guys, who have been through some really tough time also. I can't promise you anything, but I really believe you will get some great advice and support here.

Take your time, look around, and post when you feel comfortable.

Welcome again,

Shawn and Ben will always be in my heart....

Happiness is like peeing your pants; Everyone can see it, but only YOU feel the warmth.

Peebles, Ohio WOR alumni, Oct. 2007

#204471 - 02/10/08 05:47 AM Re: New and afraid [Re: Scoutvictim]
Still Offline

Registered: 02/16/07
Posts: 7011
Loc: FEMA Region 1
Hi Adam,

Welcome to the site. I'm glad you found us.


#204480 - 02/10/08 06:02 AM Re: New and afraid [Re: Still]
Freedom49 Offline

Registered: 12/31/07
Posts: 2724
Loc: Washington State
Adam you can read my story it is a lot like yours. You are not alone and there is hope. I survived and you can too. Welcome Brother

#204495 - 02/10/08 10:52 AM Re: New and afraid [Re: Freedom49]
roadrunner Offline
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Registered: 05/02/05
Posts: 22045
Loc: Carlisle, PA

Welcome to MaleSurvivor, and no, you are NOT alone. You will find a lot of support and understanding here and I'm glad you found us.

Much love,

Nobody living can ever stop me
As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me.
(Woody Guthrie)

#204497 - 02/10/08 11:38 AM Re: New and afraid [Re: roadrunner]
RICK57 Offline

Registered: 12/31/03
Posts: 1611
Adam - you're not alone, and yes there is hope.

Best wishes ....Rik

*Never look down on anybody unless you're helping them up.
*I was seeking a way of expressing my anger - I found hope!
*There are many battles before the war is won! It can be won!

#204499 - 02/10/08 12:26 PM Re: New and afraid [Re: RICK57]
sabata Offline

Registered: 08/08/06
Posts: 1950
ADAM-----------wishing you peace------------------YES thier is hope-----------------------stand strong------------------steve

#204518 - 02/10/08 03:06 PM Re: New and afraid [Re: Adam35]
Poet24 Offline

Registered: 02/09/08
Posts: 36
Hello Adam,

Your post hit me, I'm new here as well, just signed up yesterday, but already have found some support. I was terrified of the site when I looked at it, and in fact, I still am terrified, but we all need to face our fears.

I'm very sorry you went through this kind of thing, I'm sorry anyone has, but we all survived and that just proves we are stronger, and hold more power, than those who abused us.

I have DID as well, have been seeing a therapist who specializes in this disorder for about 4 years now, yet still my DID is still very active. M therapist has said that it can take a very long time to heal from DID, but it is curable. As he says it is a 'brilliant protective measure to buy you time until you ae safe and can start processing what has happened." DID can be scary, losing so much time and not knowing people who seem to know me, it is very hard and al it does is ensure chaos in a person's life.

When a person is abused by a parent it is incredibly damaging, I know from experience, a person wh is suppose to love you, and be one of the few people you should be able to trrust without reservation or fear. Again, that is something that can be healed, according to my therapist. Finding a therapist you can trust and who really cares, and has experience is vital, aznd a virtual neccesity to heal and move on with your life.

Welcome to the site, I know we will both find plenty of support and kindness here. Good luck with your recovery, and know I sympathize with the DID. Keep your chin up and remember that DID just proves how brilliant you can be.

Peace to all,

THe spirit is a fragile thing, easy to break, but not impossible to fix.

#204568 - 02/10/08 04:57 PM Re: New and afraid [Re: Poet24]
KENKEN Offline

Registered: 09/25/07
Posts: 762

You are definitely NOT ALONE. There is hope for you and all of us MS's.

I am glad you found this site. We all have some knowledge what you have and are going through. We all survive in a different way, but we all will survive.



From the Movie: Antwone Fisher


#204759 - 02/11/08 11:59 PM Re: New and afraid [Re: KENKEN]
GateKPR4 Offline

Registered: 10/29/07
Posts: 955
Loc: North Carolina, USA
Welcome Adam,
I too have been in therapy and even though I told my therapist everything about the abuse I still thought I was alone. Then I found this site and discovered there are a lot of us. Our stories may differ but we have a common ground and a place to go.
This has been a good place for me to write about my experience and feel safe sharing.

I'm a normal person dealing with abnormal experiences.
The greatest discoveries we will find within ourselves.
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