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#2043 - 06/13/05 09:17 PM Re: double life (probably triggers)
sabooka Offline

Registered: 05/19/05
Posts: 209
Loc: I would like to know also
I am expecting my first born child in September. It was partly beacause of this news that I was able to break the barriers of my own SA. My first reaction when I put the two together was OH NO, am I going to do the same thing? The more I explored myself I realized that I could never repeat the actions done to me. The reason I could never do it is because I am dealing with the pain and distrust and abuse and alination and all the other problems associated with SA. The fact that I know and am dealing with it gives me the comfort for knowing that I could never commit these crimes.

Now about your "friend" who is abusing children, I am sorry, but for me there is no excuse as to not getting involved. As a surviver I can not see how you can say that it is not your problem. Were you not a child that was abused? Do you not feel responsible for helping to put an end to these horrible cycles. I realize that you are scared and I would be to, but there are still somethings that are more important than our fears and children being abused is definetly one of them.

I am sorry if I am coming on too strong but the idea of not doing anything to protect these children to me is in fact like taking part in thier abuse. Silence is not an option in this case.


My happiness is not dependant on other people's misery.

#2044 - 06/13/05 11:07 PM Re: double life (probably triggers)
Mike Church Offline
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Registered: 01/23/03
Posts: 3439
Loc: Toronto, Canada
Guys I feel I have to post Danny's reply in another thread. Please, Please try not to be confrontational and respect the fact that we are all in different stages of healing.

Danny wrote
The mod team would like to remind everyone of the statement governing behavior on the Discussion Board as specified in the Discussion Board Guidelines:

accept that our guiding principle is to keep the site safe and open to recovery issues for everyone. The primary goal for all of us should be to maintain Restraint and Respect.


Restraint and Respect means no personal attacks on individuals either on the Discussion Board or in private messages.

Divisive and emotionally charged rhetoric are very exhausting and deplete precious energy that is needed to devote to our primary goal:
to help and support each other in our recovery from the effects of sexual abuse.

Please exercise restraint and show respect to each other.

Any perceived violation of the Discussion Board guidelines should be reported to the Moderator staff. We take all reports very seriously and work very diligently to maintain a safe and effective place for men to recover. It is not easy.

I would ask that in the future all members consider editting their posts that violate the Restraint and Respect rule after you have been notified of that by the moderator staff.

Please, please for the sake of those who are here to work on the all important task of recovery from sexual abuse, drop these personality conflicts and power driven arguments.

They have no place here on the board and will not be tolerated.

We have asked individuals and the group involved in this discussion to refrain from further outbursts of personal attacks, yet they continue.

This thread is being closed as it has strayed far from its original topic and has degenerated into destructive comments that are in clear violation of the Restraint and Respect guideline.

The Moderator staff and Board members are well aware of the current climate on the discussion board. Publicly belittling or attacking other members is not going to make the situation any better and in fact is only adding to problems here.

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#2045 - 06/16/05 07:45 AM Re: double life (probably triggers)
ak Offline

Registered: 01/10/04
Posts: 1491
never mind

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