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#202671 - 01/31/08 01:21 AM Reported My Abuser Today
Calanthe Offline
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Registered: 01/24/08
Posts: 109
Loc: California
Today I sent a letter to the leaders of the Mormon Church reporting a sexual predator who sexual and spiritually abused me 25 years ago, when I was a young man.

I arrived at this decision after speaking to two attorneys and running up against the statue of limitations issue. Both these attorneys have experience in litigating sexual abuse cases against the Mormon Church.

Right now I feel more freedom around this issue than I have felt in 25 years. I truly did not expect to feel this way but hey I will take what comes. I felt like shit around this long enough.

Strong words but it still ties my stomach in knots to post on this site and be this open about my abuse. (Oh well I am new I will get used to it)


You can't save your Ass and your Face at the same time. (Anonymous)

And given the choice I will save my ass first everytime(STC)

#202682 - 01/31/08 01:35 AM Re: Reported My Abuser Today [Re: Calanthe]
Ken Singer, LCSW Offline

Registered: 08/24/00
Posts: 5781
Loc: Lyons, CO USA
Good for you. It may spare some child abuse by the person. Also, it breaks the secret the abuser made you keep. In any event, it can only help in your healing.


Blissfully retired after 35 years treating sexual abuse

#202684 - 01/31/08 01:36 AM Re: Reported My Abuser Today [Re: Calanthe]
theatrekid Offline

Registered: 06/03/07
Posts: 702
Loc: oregon
I wish you the best of luck, I have two very close friends who were abused by people that are leaders in the mormon church. Good Luck you should be proud of your self for coming out so strongly


#202693 - 01/31/08 02:05 AM Re: Reported My Abuser Today [Re: theatrekid]
scotia1 Offline

Registered: 05/27/07
Posts: 81
Good for you Cal, and welcome, you are among friends and fellow survivors that understand.


#202702 - 01/31/08 02:34 AM Re: Reported My Abuser Today [Re: scotia1]
AndyJB2005 Offline

Registered: 11/14/06
Posts: 1249
Loc: Minnesota
Good, I'm glad you're sticking up for yourself, Cal. You deserve to confront this man. I hope you get what you're looking for. \:\)

Good luck, friend. \:\)

Life's disappointments are harder to take when you don't know any swear words. -- Calvin (Calvin and Hobbes)

#202742 - 01/31/08 11:40 AM Re: Reported My Abuser Today [Re: AndyJB2005]
buzz_key Offline

Registered: 03/31/07
Posts: 635
Loc: USA

I admire your courage. I commend you for taking the power back!


#202770 - 01/31/08 02:11 PM Re: Reported My Abuser Today [Re: buzz_key]
mvnforwrd Offline

Registered: 12/06/07
Posts: 216
Loc: NJ
I think it is great courage to do what you are doing. Keep focused and find strength for the road will be rough. If this perp is still active and has a chance to harm anyone else you will find comfort knowing you spoke up...


Take your foot out of yesterday and your other foot out of tomorro or you will keep pissing allover today!

#202783 - 01/31/08 02:51 PM Re: Reported My Abuser Today [Re: mvnforwrd]
Still Offline

Registered: 02/16/07
Posts: 7011
Loc: FEMA Region 1
Nice move!!!!

If you cc that letter to the media, the church is a LOT less likely to ball it up and throw it in the trash. Just a little trick I've used a LOT in civil and political battles. Once I cc-ed the Governor of NH on a letter....the governor himself called me to appologize for his state workers screwing up in negligence. I then got calls from people all over telling me that the stuff that was F'd-up was bening fixed as we spoke. But you gotta include the "cc" cites on the letter you send to the church.

#202812 - 01/31/08 05:34 PM Re: Reported My Abuser Today [Re: Still]
alexey Offline
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Registered: 08/16/05
Posts: 1676
Loc: Moscow, Russia
Glad for you!

Take care.

When you feel all alone and unhappy, turn to you Inner Child and talk to Him.
You will see He can comfort you like nothing else!

#202836 - 01/31/08 07:52 PM Re: Reported My Abuser Today [Re: Calanthe]
Calanthe Offline
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Registered: 01/24/08
Posts: 109
Loc: California
I want to thank everyone for their support and comments.

I am in an exciting and scary process and I did not want to do it a lone and I am glad to find another level of support on this site.



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