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#201308 - 01/25/08 11:57 AM Sexual abuse of boys - Article!
reality2k4 Offline

Registered: 07/06/04
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Loc: Stuck between water, air, and ...
On 24 January 2008, the Australian Institute of Criminology (AIC) published a report (The challenge of protecting boys from sexual abuse) which says that it is widely believed that one in three Australian girls and one in from five to ten boys are sexually abused before they leave school.

Using Australian and international research findings, this paper shows that the vulnerability and victimization of boys is substantially under-recognised and under-reported, that boys have been disadvantaged by child sexual abuse being regarded as a feminist issue and that child protection curriculum has not yet been developed to meet the special needs of boys.

The challenge of protecting boys from sexual abuse

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#201315 - 01/25/08 12:35 PM Re: Sexual abuse of boys - Article! [Re: reality2k4]
Freedom49 Offline

Registered: 12/30/07
Posts: 2724
Loc: Washington State
Wow that is even worse than America as far as recognizing the problem and addressing it. That saddens me.


#201731 - 01/27/08 10:56 AM Re: Sexual abuse of boys - Article! [Re: Freedom49]
Lazarus Offline

Registered: 07/01/07
Posts: 851
Loc: Below the radar, USA
This is a really powerful article. Thank you for posting it, Reality2k4...

For those of you who don't bother to read the entire thing, I have taken the liberty of quoting some of the statements and statistics from the article in condensed form. It makes for fascinating reading;


In 1984, Victoria Aus. police reports showed that only 6% of child sexual abuse involved strangers.

In 1994 researchers found that 13% of male sexual abuse was comitted by strangers.

Interviews with male sexual abuse victims indicated that 43% liked some aspect of their abuse.

Although 52% were anally raped and 57% had to provide oral sex, an astonishing 78.5% of male abuse victims considered their abuse to be 'normal behavior'.

When 84 convicted child sex offenders were asked if they were sexually abused as youths, all but one said no. However, when asked about their early sexual experiences, they revealed offenses by an average of 14.2 offenders each, 50% of whom were female.

Researchers interviewed 411 child sex offenders and found that 42% reported being aroused by the idea of sex with children before age 15. More recently, interviews with 4007 self-reported child sex offenders, researchers found that 1 in 20 adolescent males is already a pedophile who fantasizes about having sex with children.

Researching with more than 500 convicted child sex offenders, it was discovered that the male sex offender commits an average of 522 child sex crimes before being apprehended at an average age of 31.5 years.

Canadian researchers interviewed 1213 students, grade 6 - 8 and found that 22% of boys had been the recipient of unwanted sex in the previous 6 weeks. How many others participated willingly in unknown. Also, on average boys are first abused at age 8 years, 4 months.

In 1998 research showed that two thirds of 511 make abuse victims denied that their experiences constituted abuse, despite high levels of violence and emotional damage, blaming themselves for what happened.

In 2001 researchers found that boys believe it is in their best interests to remain silent about sexual abuse. Male victims that identified themselves as victims reported nearly twice the level of psychological distress as men in other groups, suggesting that non-disclosure may be easier for males than disclosure.

In a sample of 198 Austrailian male victims, 29% were abused by adolescents and 29% by adults before age 6: 54% by adolescents and 44% by adults at the age of 6 - 10; 59% by adolescents and 68% by adults at ages 11-15. Those abused in early childhood tend to be continually victimized into adolsecence by an average 8.5 offenders. Those who became offenders themselves were characterized by the sheer volume of abuse they experienced and their acceptance of abuse as normal.

In 1997 research showed that male abuse victims took an average of more than 17 years to seek assistance with abuse related problems.

While most abused girls reported rape, only two of the boys in one study referred to anal rape. The remainder referred to 'wanking' and providing 'blow jobs' for older youth in school toilets and sports changing rooms. This happened with such frequency that boys regarded it as 'normal' or 'a private matter' and not reportable. This finding should be viewed with caution as an earlier study reported that 52% of male abuse victims reported anal rape.

When asked what they would do if older students behaved sexually towards them, 36% said they would make a report to school staff, but a majority referred to the risks associated with doing so. 16% said they would respond agressively. Agressive responses were sheer fantasy, given that 44% of the respondents had already been abused and all but one had responded compliantly and not reported it.

"That which does not kill us, surely makes us stonger." - Neitsche

#201776 - 01/27/08 03:26 PM Re: Sexual abuse of boys - Article! [Re: Lazarus]
Freedom49 Offline

Registered: 12/30/07
Posts: 2724
Loc: Washington State
Holy cow. This saddens me as I can relate to many of those statistics. The non reporting because the expericences were considered "normal" behavior. Non reproting because it I believed it would cause more trouble and upheaval in my life that staying silent. The list goes on and certainly dispels the belief I have carried throughout my adult life that I was unique, alien, and no one else could relate to my feelings and problems.


#201805 - 01/27/08 06:31 PM Re: Sexual abuse of boys - Article! [Re: Freedom49]
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A lot of these statistics tend to confirm the material gathered in Josef Spiegel's Sexual Abuse of Males (2003), which is a basic reference text for professional therapists who work with male survivors.


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#201872 - 01/27/08 09:22 PM Re: Sexual abuse of boys - Article! [Re: roadrunner]
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Registered: 01/21/08
Posts: 1242
Loc: infinity
It's kind of overwhelming....the sheer number of suffering kids out there!
And so little that can be done about it....especially since nobody knows about it so much of the time. Very sad.

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#487946 - 09/02/15 12:10 AM Re: Sexual abuse of boys - Article! [Re: reality2k4]
silenttolong Offline

Registered: 08/31/15
Posts: 25
Loc: canada
In 2001 researchers found that boys believe it is in their best interests to remain silent about sexual abuse
My abuse took place at ages 12 -13- 14
I was silent then and silent until I was 75 ....Married Father of 3 and Grandfather of 7 but events made disclosure undeniable to vacillate my protection.
Supported by wife son and 2 grand daughters
What a fortunate man I am but others will not be so kind as I have already found out
Was at one point thinking of suicide but decided she would not be the one that caused me to that
Do not really understand how my father never knew what we were doing all those nights and days
People did not believe me about the non sexual abuse so I knew they would not believe me about the sexual abuse
I left home at 16 Country boy in the big city
Sorry I have rambled on and got off topic But thank God things have changed since the 59's 60's and 70's
The things you point out Lazarus are so much better now There is help I should have had way back then but I didn't want to tell No one was listening at home my Dad my school or church
I am now getting help I will recover no matter what happens Just so she will turn over in her grave
Always remember the power of one

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#487952 - 09/02/15 01:45 AM Re: Sexual abuse of boys - Article! [Re: silenttolong]
Chase Eric Offline


Registered: 10/25/10
Posts: 2392
I am very affected by what you have shared, SilentToLong. Although you are older than I, we were both abused at the same age. In particular, this sentence stood out to me:

Originally Posted By: SilentToLong
Do not really understand how my father never knew what we were doing all those nights and days

I'm not sure about your journey, but I've been on mine for a few years now. And one thing that has never ceased to amaze me is how ubiquitous is the turning of heads, how much ease there seems to be in others ability not to see what is in front of them. It is a phenomenon that is seen in many cases of institutional abuse (just look at Penn State and all those who saw it and did nothing to stop it).

My father never saw, never knew. I wondered how. He's been gone several years now. If he were alive today, I would have enough courage and perspective to ask him about it. But I can't. I am not a bitter person, and love him dearly still. I start from the premise he was a good man who simply could not see it.

I just wanted you to know that you are not alone with that. I used to find this pattern very disconcerting. Now I find it - as a phenomenon - fascinating. I am convinced that the biggest single step we can make to protect our children from CSA is to open the eyes of others who have the power to step in and stop it. In most cases, neither the abuser nor the victim have that capability. The power lies with the rest of us, in the wings, to look, to see and to believe our eyes.


#487965 - 09/02/15 07:40 AM Re: Sexual abuse of boys - Article! [Re: reality2k4]
Sven Offline

Registered: 07/29/13
Posts: 485
From those 'men can stop this' campaigns to 1in6 offering you a website where if you search for men it only comes up with articles for woMEN and offers a list of shelters for women and children...
To those health classes at highschool about dating violence or sexual abuse focussing solely at girls.
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#487980 - 09/02/15 04:18 PM Re: Sexual abuse of boys - Article! [Re: reality2k4]
Nothing Man Offline

Registered: 04/10/14
Posts: 1084
Loc: Ohio
Silenttoolong, your post resonated with me as well, and the same phrase that caught Eirik's attention got mine too: "don't really know how my father didn't know what was going on..."

My mother sexually abused me for years, until I was about 15 or 16. But more than that she also was vicious in the way she could humiliate and put me down, and she liked to hit me and did so until I was in my middle twenties. In other words, she was physically, psychologically and sexually abusive to me for years and my father lived with us. Granted, he traveled for business a significant amount of time, but he could see the physical and psychological abuse.

My parents used to fight a lot when I was younger. It was not until I revealed my mom's sexual abuse of me to my dad that he told me they were usually fighting about me and that he thought she was being to tough on me.

Their fights, however, did not stop the abuse.

I wonder why my father did not do more.
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