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#200255 - 01/19/08 10:48 PM Adult woman sa Adult male
zapmaz Offline
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Registered: 01/19/08
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Im in need of help. I dont have any friends, I havent had sex with anyone since my assault, in 1989. I was sexually assualted
by a coworker over aperiod of 6 months. I was having flashbacks
, couldnt feel my body after we did it- towards the end of our
so called friendship. I didnt feel it was rape as she was smaller than I was. I also kept pursuing her- she had me on
auto pilot- by that I mean she never asked me to go home with her
That obsessive magnetic pull she
shoved on to me. I buried any thought of her being a sexual assualter until 2004. I became a type of hermit. even today.
She and I used to go to a bar that I am obsessing over. Like the
same magnetic pull she had over me when we were together. I dont
want to go through this obsessing, I dont want to speak to these
people. But I still feel compeled to like it will help my sa
What should I do to stop obsessing over going back to this bar? I feel like Im being raped all over again. I need advice bad.

#200595 - 01/21/08 08:58 PM Re: Adult woman sa Adult male [Re: zapmaz]
Ken Singer, LCSW Offline

Registered: 08/24/00
Posts: 5781
Loc: Lyons, CO USA
Rather than go with your impulses, do you have a therapist you can discuss this with?

Your de>
Blissfully retired after 35 years treating sexual abuse


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