Hang in there Jonesy, you're in the right place. I understand waiting so long, I do, I'm 32 and just got here a couple weeks ago. For me, it was "other things..." that kept me from getting help. The father of my oldest neice was falsely accused as well. When he was 17, he was dating a 14 year old girl, Her parents didn't like him, and when they broke up, they convinced her to go along with them on accusing him of rape. He was a minor, so didn't have to do jail time, be even now that he's in his mid twenties, he has to register as a sex offender or face the prospect of jail time.
You will definitely find many people here who understand your feelings and the things you're dealing with. I was afraid that certain issues I have were mine alone, but I found that they weren't. I found that others had been helped and are healing, you can get that too. Have hope.