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#199548 - 01/15/08 03:51 PM Question about Triggers and AO
NoOneImportant Offline

Registered: 01/11/08
Posts: 36
I thought I understood what triggers and AO were but now I'm not sure. I hadn't heard any of these terms before a few days ago, so I was simply assuming that my basic understanding of the words was true, but I'm seeing that is not the case.

So, can someone explain to me what they mean, entail, and encompass?

#199644 - 01/16/08 03:05 AM Re: Question about Triggers and AO [Re: NoOneImportant]
WalkingSouth Offline

Registered: 08/30/05
Posts: 16270
Loc: Waldport, Oregon
Hi Friend,

I'll try to answer at least part of your question.

A trigger as it relates to what guys talk about on this site is something that may send you to a bad place emotionally or psychologically. For instance, there have been men here who indicated they were triggered very badly by a certain aftershave because that was the one the perpetrator wore, and it "triggered" a flashback, a fear response, or emotional meltdown.

Also, it is appreciated if you want to mention or discuss in a post things that may be "triggering" to other users if you will put a "Trigger Warning" in the title of your post as exampled below.

What he did to me **Trigger Warning**

In response to the other part of your question about "AO" I'm afraid I don't recognize the terminology. Perhaps one of the other guys can help you out on that one or you can respond explaining what you mean.

Lots of love,


"Life's journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, shouting 'Holy Shit! What a ride!'" ~Hunter S. Thompson

#199649 - 01/16/08 03:41 AM Re: Question about Triggers and AO [Re: WalkingSouth]
AndyJB2005 Offline

Registered: 11/14/06
Posts: 1249
Loc: Minnesota
AO (or a/o) = acting out. At least that's how I've known it.

My understanding of acting out is acting in a way that is detrimental to you and your recovery, or any behavior that reflects itself or is a symptom of your abuse.

In an Sex addicts anonymous/Sex Love addict anonymous setting, acting out is anything that is a bottom line behavior, or acting out sexually as it is related to your addiction. \:\)

Hope this helped some. \:\)

Life's disappointments are harder to take when you don't know any swear words. -- Calvin (Calvin and Hobbes)


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