Over the years he has referred to himself as straight, bi and gay. At any given time, his behavior will support or contradict any or all of the above. Knowing about his csa, if I made a list of issues between us by priority, his sexual identity would be pretty far down. Olive is right on all counts. It's complicated. A child cannot decide they want sex. They have no idea what sex is. And when it's used in an abusive way, some of the physical sensations that may feel good, or the physical responses to touch that the child has no control over is turned into the belief that he "wanted it". His body responded so he must have "liked it". The abuser was male, so he must "like men". It's a disturbing dynamic.