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#197793 - 01/04/08 12:51 AM Update
John Oarc Offline

Registered: 02/10/06
Posts: 633
Loc: Louisiana
Hey guys,

Just wanted to let everyone know that since my stomach problems have completely cleared up I have truly gotten my mental crap together.

I am finally doing the things I used to do, I am progressing again. I am complete, a different person truly.

I don't worry about everything or what everyone thinks of me.
I don't try to help solve the worlds problems.
I don't have anxiety or depression.
I don't have an overwhelming urge to have sex.

I can summarize what took place to get me to this point.

I wrote my life story and published it, cathartic journaling, and it helped a lot.

I participated in professional counseling and really put forth all I had.

I continued to seek within and worked step by step to purged myself of any and all self defeating behaviors.

I forgave myself and others, mother, father, wife, etc.

I raised hell, got mad, cried, laughed and made my peace with God.

I finally surrendered my life to him and let him take the wheel.

I know that sounds like it happened yesterday but it took eleven years and I can safely say it was damn well worth it.

Most important things, in my opinion;

God, Therapy, admitting I had a problem that stemmed from the CSA, and forgiveness.

Thanks for listening,

P.S. I hope that this post does not offend, I just had to let it out. I am so very happy to feel, to feel joy and peace, to feel motivated to continue this life to its fullest.

Whatever It Takes, God

#197794 - 01/04/08 01:06 AM Re: Update [Re: John Oarc]
James_dup1 Offline

Registered: 04/13/02
Posts: 1332
Loc: Wyoming
I hope that this post does not offend

Hell no. This is great news \:D

I am so very happy to feel, to feel joy and peace, to feel motivated to continue this life to its fullest.

That is so very cool, I'm happy for you. It's been a hard road but one worth takeing, huh? Good job in your recovery.


I have more issues than Rolling Stone!

#197795 - 01/04/08 01:08 AM Re: Update [Re: John Oarc]
buzz_key Offline

Registered: 03/31/07
Posts: 635
Loc: USA

I am very happy for this place you have arrived! You deserve to reap the rewards of all the hard work.

I hope for a similar day for myself.

thanks for sharing this.


#197797 - 01/04/08 01:55 AM Re: Update [Re: buzz_key]
alphabravo Offline

Registered: 10/09/07
Posts: 56
Loc: Boston, MA
Thank you for sharing. I hope to fine the place you have. One day it will happen. I hope. Its nice to know a survivor can find peace.

Thanks for the smile \:\)


Its not how far you fall, its how you land.

#197807 - 01/04/08 03:46 AM Re: Update [Re: alphabravo]
DanM Offline

Registered: 11/09/07
Posts: 540
Loc: So. California

It is refreshing to hear that progress can be made and lives changed. sometimes we focus on all the sadness and negative things, we fail to see the positive things that are happening in our lives. It sounds as if you are at a good place in your life. I am happy for you and pray that it will continue.

With warm regards,


#197808 - 01/04/08 04:01 AM Re: Update [Re: DanM]
John Oarc Offline

Registered: 02/10/06
Posts: 633
Loc: Louisiana
Thanks guys,

It's all great in 08.

WE CAN BE FREE, it can happen, it will happen, just keep at it.

I love all you guys, I pray all of us reach our goals.

Whatever It Takes, God


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