Hi Keeptrucking & welcome to this great group of male survivors!
Look at the thread (sections of messages/posts) entitled "Wisdom Drain at the Public Forums" which is a string of posts about this; it's a change just made here at Male Survivor. The first post by me, and the others, answer your questions pretty well from my own perspective, and many other answers are offered as well.
If you have any further questions please post me here or send me a private message.
Glad you're here. Take care.
"I can't stand pain. It hurts me."