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#195704 - 12/18/07 12:17 AM Therapy Question...EMDR
weapher Offline

Registered: 12/11/07
Posts: 60
Loc: Oregon
Just started down the road to recovery and I have a question... I have a T who seems to be a very wonderful person and has a good amount of experience dealing with CSA. She is wanting to incorporate with my treatment a technique with me called EMDR. Has anyone had any experience with this?

I would appreciate any feedback possible since I am a skeptic and feel at this point that nothing is going to help me...


Facing the struggle makes you strong.

#195727 - 12/18/07 02:49 AM Re: Therapy Question...EMDR [Re: weapher]
roadrunner Offline
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Registered: 05/02/05
Posts: 22045
Loc: Carlisle, PA

EMDR is a valuable therapy technique, but if you are skeptical and new to therapy you might want to wait a bit until you are more comfortable. The survivor should always feel he is being supported and assisted in therapy, not pushed. No matter how good or valuable a technique is, it should be your decision to go for it and if you have questions you should certainly feel free to ask them and expect full and clear answers from your T.

Much love,

Nobody living can ever stop me
As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me.
(Woody Guthrie)

#195740 - 12/18/07 03:29 AM Re: Therapy Question...EMDR [Re: roadrunner]
BJK Offline

Registered: 08/02/07
Posts: 1526

I've been doing EMDR "training" for about two months now, and the first thing I want to say is to make sure you trust your therapist before you begin.

EMDR is very trying and very tiring. You will want to sleep after each session.

My experience has been as follows.

The EMDR started with an attempt for me to find a safe place. I believe this safe place is a tool that I will use in the future when we start to talk about some of the more horrific memories I have had in my past. We've spent 3-4 sessions working on finding this safe place.

The next thing my therapist did bring a minor annoyance into my safe place. For me, that was the phone ringing. She asked me to use my safe place to overcome the annoyance, and when I was successful in doing that, I found that I started to become adept at using my safe place to overcome triggers in day to day life.

The next thing we did was my therapist started to fill out a worksheet asking me about my memories from different times in my life. This worksheet is currently only halfway done, but she is asking me about positive as well as negative experiences. I believe she is going to attempt to use my positive memories to help overcome my negative memories, and with the memories that can't be overcome, there is always my safe place to retreat to when it becomes overbearing.

How has it effected me?

I have become more in tune with my emotions, my memories, and my triggers. Most importantly, I have started to be able to put my finger on why day to day occurances remind me of some unexplained event that happened in my past. It can be quite unnerving at times because of the ease I have been able to not only identify triggers but also coping mechanisms in myself and in others. Really, what has happened is that a great big faucet in my mind is currently wide open, and emotions and memories are streaming out of it at full force. My therapist says that we are going to be working on these memories while we get ready for the next step of EMDR.

This has been a challenge, but I felt like I wasn't going anywhere when it all started. I hope I was able to help.


Revenge is nothing more than another way of perpetuating abuse.

What the world needs now
Is some new words of wisdom
Like la la la la la la la la la.
-David Lowery

Having a friend who will keep a secret for you is worthless compared to a friend who won't keep a secret from you.

#195741 - 12/18/07 03:30 AM Re: Therapy Question...EMDR [Re: roadrunner]
Ken Followell Offline
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Registered: 12/30/01
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I used EMDR with my therapist and found it very helpful. My mind could not really understand how it worked, but it did. It was very helpful in reliving anxiety for me.

Ken Followell

Everything works out right in the end. If things are not working right, it isn't the end yet. Don't let it bother you, relax and keep on goin
- Michael C. Muhammad

"I get up. I walk. I fall down. Meanwhile, I keep dancing."
� Rabbi Hillel

#195745 - 12/18/07 04:22 AM Re: Therapy Question...EMDR [Re: Ken Followell]
weapher Offline

Registered: 12/11/07
Posts: 60
Loc: Oregon
thanks for the input. I feel ready to begin...that is why I have started down this road. Just know how the "counseling" of the past has only led to me beginning to feel like I had just had to try harder to be better.

Of course the past counselors never began to touch the abuse i had. Not sure i even admitted it was there before.

Today is beginning to feel like a new day for me. Long road I know.. but at least it is a better road. 25+ years of stuffing it in the box has taken its toll on my life and the lives of those around me.

Thanks again,

Facing the struggle makes you strong.

#195757 - 12/18/07 05:21 AM Re: Therapy Question...EMDR [Re: weapher]
AndyJB2005 Offline

Registered: 11/14/06
Posts: 1249
Loc: Minnesota
I'm doing EMDR in therapy too. I've had a lot of success with it, but it hasn't been an easy or pleasant thing all the time. Although there were good parts too.

Life's disappointments are harder to take when you don't know any swear words. -- Calvin (Calvin and Hobbes)


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