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#19448 - 05/14/06 01:38 AM Re: Feeling bad for my perp
WalkingSouth Offline

Registered: 08/30/05
Posts: 16270
Loc: Waldport, Oregon

I'm wondering if, just perhaps, the different reactions to the subject matter in this discussion can be explained by such a simple thing as each of our diverse personalities.

I for example tend to be on the emotional end of the spectrum in the personality test given me by my T. My wife on the other hand tends toward the cognitive/analytical end of the spectrum. Consequently we tend to have very diverse reactions from each other on subjects such as this.

Just a thought which I don't necessarily support at this moment (I'm too emotional ;\) ), but am wondering if others have some input on the question.

Lots of love,


"Life's journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, shouting 'Holy Shit! What a ride!'" ~Hunter S. Thompson

#19449 - 05/14/06 04:41 AM Re: Feeling bad for my perp
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Registered: 11/18/05
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maybe it could also be that even though abuse is abuse ,it affects people on different levels ,due to lots of things, someone who is groomed into abuse is affected in totaly different ways than someone who is physicaly forced into it .the damage done is the same but the things we have to react to are different .each case of abuse is exclusive to the person it happened to even though it was all abuse it is different for every one of us . and i think how we heal from it is whatever works for the individual. adam

its not hard to fall
when you float like a cannonball - damien rice

#463150 - 03/25/14 06:55 PM Re: Feeling bad for my perp [Re: Nobbynobs]
jas4159 Offline

Registered: 06/16/11
Posts: 483
Loc: New Hampshire
i didn't understand why i felt sorry for my perp when i was standing over his grave, having been robbed of a chance to confront him. he was a very pathetic human being. But it was at the beginning of my recovery and i had not found my anger. my feelings changed when i found my anger thru recovery.


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