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#19352 - 02/03/04 09:58 PM Re: Shame
FlyWM Offline

Registered: 09/14/03
Posts: 322
Loc: Michigan
My therapist has talked about this, he says the two things that always come up in abuse cases are, shame and rage, usually shame, then further along in recovery the rage comes up. I am struggling with shame myself, so unfortunately I don't have much advice to help. BUt as Mike said, it is not your shame to carry, it is that of the people who abused you, I know it's easier said than believed, but in time the shame must diminish and then we can believe it is not our shame.


Impossible is just a big word thrown around by small men who find it easier to live in the world they've been given than to explore the power they have to change it. Impossible in not a declaration, it's a dare.


#19353 - 02/04/04 12:52 AM Re: Shame
Lloydy Offline
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Registered: 04/17/02
Posts: 7071
Loc: England Shropshire
your insight has given me some hope that i can break the shame cycle.
i know it wasnt my fault but i have yet to believe it. Im trying to.
Dare I say - "shame on you for NOT believing" ?

The shame is ALL theirs Lee, nothing to do with you.

Dave \:\)

Go confidently in the direction of your dreams! Live the life you've imagined. As you simplify your life, the laws of the universe will be simpler.
Henry David Thoreau

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