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#193049 - 11/29/07 01:41 AM Triggered at the post office
BJK Offline

Registered: 08/02/07
Posts: 1526
There are two lines at my local post office. One is for passports and buying stamps. The other is for all other stuff. Of course, I had to mail a package, and my line had about 40 people in it. The passports line had about 5 people in it.

I was standing in line, right next to the passport desk. A kid about 14-15 years old was applying for a passport with his driver's permit. He was with his mother. While they were being helped, the mother's phone rang, and she answered it. She started gabbing about stupid stuff to whomever was on the other end of the line, and she went on and on. Finally, the kid got to the point where all he needed on the application was her signature, and he tugged on her sleeve to get her attention. The mother made a movement at her son while yelling at him, "Don't you DARE bother me when I'm talking on the phone!" Never mind the fact that there were 4-5 people in line behind her waiting for her to get off the phone. The kid had a legitimate point.

The reason why I was triggered was because when she made the movement towards her son, the kid visibly flinched. He recoiled from her at least a foot, and he put his arm up to block the potential blow. His eyes remained closed for a full ten seconds after it was clear that she wasn't going to hit him.

I flinched with him. I thought she was going to clobber him, but it turns out, that is exactly what my mother used to do to me. She would psych me out just like that, and then she'd hit me sometimes anyway after I opened my eyes.

PTSD is a bitch sometimes.


Revenge is nothing more than another way of perpetuating abuse.

What the world needs now
Is some new words of wisdom
Like la la la la la la la la la.
-David Lowery

Having a friend who will keep a secret for you is worthless compared to a friend who won't keep a secret from you.

#193061 - 11/29/07 03:07 AM Re: Triggered at the post office [Re: BJK]
Muldoon Offline

Registered: 05/30/02
Posts: 1428
Loc: St Paul MN
Sounds like a mother that doesn't give a dam about anyone but herself. My mother was the same way. Never know when she was going to over react.


Teach the Children to Never Hide in the Silence

#193065 - 11/29/07 03:38 AM Re: Triggered at the post office [Re: Muldoon]
dgoods Offline

Registered: 10/15/07
Posts: 622
Loc: Richmond area
I always find myself sadly unsurprised when i witness examples of sheer selfishness like what you describe- and equally frustrated when i have to yet again cope with both my sympathy for the victims of whatever the current situation is, and my own amplified reaction to same... "shouldering it" is an often daily occurrence, through nobody's fault in particular...
Thanks for bearing eloquent witness to both what we see, and how it affects us more than others may imagine, or care to.

Give sorrow words: the grief that does not speak
Whispers the o'er-fraught heart and bids it break.

-William Shakespeare, Macbeth, Act IV, Sc. III

#193066 - 11/29/07 03:55 AM Re: Triggered at the post office [Re: dgoods]
FormerTexan Offline

Registered: 09/12/04
Posts: 12137
Loc: Denver, CO
Add my mother to this list.

Money talks, but all it tells me is goodbye.

If I could meet myself as a boy...

#193084 - 11/29/07 05:16 AM Re: Triggered at the post office [Re: FormerTexan]

Registered: 02/13/04
Posts: 983
Sound to me like this woman needs to have a visit from child protive services. Because if she were not in a public place she probaly would of hit the kid. No child should live in fear.
Unfortunately Most People do not have the "Balls" to turn in someone like this. Or they just do not care.



"All I can do is be me, whoever that is"

#193090 - 11/29/07 05:50 AM Re: Triggered at the post office [Re: OKIE MIKE]
Hauser Offline

Registered: 11/12/05
Posts: 2963
Loc: United States
Never in my life, have I witnessed a child being hit, or even being threatened with such. Maybe I'm just not paying close enough attention, but I doubt it.

"Hey girl, instead of threating to hit your kid, why don't you get off the damned phone and have some respect for these good people standing patiently in line behind you"!

Bryan, you got me thinking, if I EVER see something like this happen in public, I'm calling it. I'm gonna say something.

#193119 - 11/29/07 01:44 PM Re: Triggered at the post office [Re: Hauser]
roadrunner Offline
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Registered: 05/02/05
Posts: 22045
Loc: Carlisle, PA

PTSD is the result of what happened to you; I would reserve the term "bitch" for that cow in the Post Office.

Much love,

Nobody living can ever stop me
As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me.
(Woody Guthrie)


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