Newest Members
mmm coffee, Calibre09, FallGuy2154, Whoamitoday, Joe4618
13527 Registered Users
Today's Birthdays
Broken1968 (49), frankC (64), Free to be Me (63), ivor1986 (31), ivor_1987 (31), osujtp (2017), SeanTennessee (38), Shields (40), tresheridas (76)
Who's Online
6 registered (usmc97, iaccus, lapchinj, 3 invisible), 73 Guests and 3 Spiders online.
Key: Admin, Global Mod, Mod
Forum Stats
13,527 Registered Members
75 Forums
70,362 Topics
491,366 Posts

Most users ever online: 418 @ 07/02/12 11:29 AM
Topic Options
#19082 - 11/09/02 09:02 AM Looking Glass ?
Don-NY Offline

Registered: 08/06/02
Posts: 546
Loc: Long Island, NY
We don't see the world as it is,
We see the world as we are.
Have you ever gotten really annoyed with something a person does, either once or habitually?

Or noticed that a particular personality trait they have just drives you up the wall?

Something that makes you want to scream and shout or just get away and keep away from them.

Probably pretty common experiences, BUT how often have you noticed (or admitted) that the thing that is so disagreeable is something about yourself? Something you do. A trait you have.

This just happened to me in the past week. A person has been annoying me more and more and more, for a few reasons. Then I realized today that what annoys me the most is something that I do myself if I'm not careful.

I'm not saying it's a really bad thing, or that it is NOT appropriate at certain times and certain places.

But from experience, I know that these actions alienate and annoy when they go on and on and on.

If I knew this person better, I'd tell them to back off this stuff a little, even tell about my own experience acting that way.

But I don't. And the little I know about the person leads me to believe that they would be highly insulted.

So, I'm just staying clear as much as I can. But it's still annoying!!!!


If you understand everything, some things are just as they are. If you understand nothing, things are still just as they are.

#19083 - 11/09/02 08:41 PM Re: Looking Glass ?
Wuamei Offline

Registered: 08/19/02
Posts: 2700
Loc: The left turn I should have ta...

You are aware of it and you admit it, which may be at least half the battle! It's hard to admit we do something that irritates us so much in others. But it's important becuz we can be so prone to this what some call "transference."

That's one reason my driving, among other things, is becoming less aggressive & aggravating. I'm seeing that a lot of the things I complain about in other drivers, I sometimes do myself but always have an excuse. Just as, no doubt, they do also. So I'm trying to watch my own driving while I watch out for the other drivers. Much more relaxing way to travel.

Oh yeah I still get aggravated! But I'm recognizing it, admitting it, and dealing with it. As are you. That's the important thing.

Take Care


"I can't stand pain. It hurts me."
--Daffy Duck


Moderator:  ModTeam, TJ jeff 

I agree that my access and use of the MaleSurvivor discussion forums and chat room is subject to the terms of this Agreement. AND the sole discretion of MaleSurvivor.
I agree that my use of MaleSurvivor resources are AT-WILL, and that my posting privileges may be terminated at any time, and for any reason by MaleSurvivor.