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#189673 - 11/02/07 04:12 PM Still lost
knifael Offline
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Registered: 10/29/07
Posts: 11
I wet the bed until i was almost a teenager. I dont remember when it stopped just as i don't remember most anything else from childhood.

But after the memories started surfacing and i've just started to talk a little bit and admit my abuse. At 23 i wet the bed last night.

To the best of anyone's knowledge is this something that could have happened because of the resurfacing of these memories and not having the capacity to deal with them?

I still haven't gotten any help. I haven't had anyone to talk to about the abuse or recovery. So i've just fallen deeper into depression. Pissing the bed at 23 isn't helping.

#189677 - 11/02/07 04:57 PM Re: Still lost [Re: knifael]
cbfull Offline

Registered: 01/26/07
Posts: 386
Loc: Ohio
Would you feel any better if I told you I wet the sofa about a month ago?

I understand your frustration. I waited about a week until I felt comfortable enough to tell my friend that I "peed the couch", and I wan't even drunk! (I only had two drinks) He laughed and said, "That makes me feel better because I crapped my pants yesterday at work."

I understand that what you are describing is more distressing than an isolated occurrence, but I don't see any reason to get too upset. It might be triggering a sort of flashback for you, and it is likely that as you dig back in time you are going to run into many things like this.

Try not to fret about it, it will distract you from your goals.



Guilt and shame have never done any of us any good at all.

#189796 - 11/03/07 03:45 PM Re: Still lost [Re: cbfull]
roadrunner Offline
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Registered: 05/02/05
Posts: 22045
Loc: Carlisle, PA

A boy wets the bed as a reaction to unresolved stress and fear, and that same reaction can happen to adults as well. You are just now starting out in your recovery, and I'm sure it scares the hell out of you. Join the club! I bet all of us were like that in some way or another.

But don't feel guilty or ashamed. If you add further bad feelings to what you already have, that will just make things worse. You aren't a wacko or immature. This kind of thing DOES happen.

Keep talking and asking your questions Michael. It can only help, and remember, we have ALL been through what you are getting into now.

Much love,

Nobody living can ever stop me
As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me.
(Woody Guthrie)

#189802 - 11/03/07 04:20 PM Re: Still lost [Re: roadrunner]
KeithR Offline

Registered: 10/28/06
Posts: 363
Loc: Georgia
I wet the bed at least once in my 40's. Guess I'm still a boy too.

Until started recovery, I used to have dreams (that I never remember) where I would start to moan and cry out, increasingly loud, until I would wake my wife and sometimes me. The only thing I remember feeling, is that I felt unable to move, or perhaps get away. Strange because this is not a memory I recall.

Since I've been in recovery for a while, I don't have these episodes any more. Good luck as tyou begin your recovery.



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