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#188362 - 10/22/07 04:50 PM different types of abuse? (trigger?)
jf Offline

Registered: 06/27/07
Posts: 54
hey guys...

i just got back from a session with my t. i think she feels that i'm in another abusive situation. she asked me to think about different types of abuse. could anybody help me out with this? the only abuse i know is just forced encounters via violence and or substances.

#188383 - 10/22/07 10:41 PM Re: different types of abuse? (trigger?) [Re: jf]
Ken Singer, LCSW Offline

Registered: 08/24/00
Posts: 5781
Loc: Lyons, CO USA
How about emotional abuse where the other person says hurtful things? How about bullying, particularly through emotional blackmail or guilt?

Think about all the ways people can make others do their bidding without a threat or raising a hand.

Blissfully retired after 35 years treating sexual abuse

#188384 - 10/22/07 10:54 PM Re: different types of abuse? (trigger?) [Re: Ken Singer, LCSW]
mogigo Offline

Registered: 04/25/07
Posts: 1331
Loc: Colorado
Wow, overwhelmed at this question. Where do you start?

Anything done selfishly that harms another, emotionally or physically.



#188387 - 10/22/07 11:20 PM Re: different types of abuse? (trigger?) [Re: mogigo]
MarkK Offline

Registered: 04/02/07
Posts: 2653
Loc: Denver, CO
GUILT is definitely there
Spiritual too
which kinda uses guilt - and kinda emotional - maybe it's a combination of the two ... but it's real

mental abuse as well ... not quite the same as emotional

#188410 - 10/23/07 02:54 AM Re: different types of abuse? (trigger?) [Re: MarkK]
Mike 999 Offline
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Registered: 09/09/06
Posts: 18
Loc: Midwest
I would also say parents not dressing right b-day suit or just undergarments. Verbal abuse. Talking down to, what are you stu*** or something.

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.
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Knowing and not doing is equal to not knowing at all.

#188441 - 10/23/07 10:15 AM Re: different types of abuse? (trigger?) [Re: Mike 999]
BJK Offline

Registered: 08/02/07
Posts: 1526
surrogate spousal abuse

Revenge is nothing more than another way of perpetuating abuse.

What the world needs now
Is some new words of wisdom
Like la la la la la la la la la.
-David Lowery

Having a friend who will keep a secret for you is worthless compared to a friend who won't keep a secret from you.

#188715 - 10/25/07 06:54 AM Re: different types of abuse? (trigger?) [Re: BJK]
copenbay Offline

Registered: 09/03/07
Posts: 127

Anything that is done without consideration of someone else (and especially at their expense) is abuse. From what I've observed, those who use other people to meet their needs have abused, whether it's physical violence or manipulation or anything sexual or verbal putdowns.
The act of gossip can be an abusive behavior, as can bragging about inappropriate things (you probably know people like that, too, so I'll spare you). I even consider sales pressure tactics to be abuse, but then, I lived with con artists that made salespeople look like rank amateurs and left me with thousands in debt (how I wish that was all they did!).


#188741 - 10/25/07 05:28 PM Re: different types of abuse? (trigger?) [Re: copenbay]
River Offline

Registered: 10/23/07
Posts: 114
Loc: Nashville,Tennessee
Here are the one's I have inventoried in the past:

Sexual- this does not necessarily have to be violent or even physical. A grown man exposing his genitals to a child is abuse, exposure to pornography by an adult is abusive.

Physical-typically thought of as punches that leaves bruises or cuts. But can also involve being shoved to the ground or physically restrained.

Spiritual-entire books written on this one. For me it was being exposed to a fundamentalistic religion that made me feel separate and apart and different from my friends and the world. For example, I was not allowed to hang out with my friends at school dances because of my parents religious beliefs.

Intellectual-could include a school teacher calling a student "stupid" or lack of accomodation, understanding or being treated differently because of a learning disability

emotional-I see this as more of the verbal abuse and criticism that I received as a child. I also include emotional incest by my mother in this category and the lack of affection emotional nurturing by both of my parents

I am sure there is a bunch more that I cannot think of right now.



#189893 - 11/04/07 12:18 PM Re: different types of abuse? (trigger?) [Re: River]
GateKPR4 Offline

Registered: 10/29/07
Posts: 955
Loc: North Carolina, USA
Withholding attention, and information. Lies, manipulation, betrayal. verbal, psychological, mental, invalidating feelings emotions, breaking boundaries, isolation - I was isolated from family and friends that were not part of the group/cult"fear, guilt,shame"
Hope this helps

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