Leosha - I hope you are well.
I have confronted the perv that abused me, not long after I achieved a conviction against him in court.
It was when I was walking into a local store, just as he was leaving. He was blinded by the sun and didn't realise who I was. He said 'now then son', which is a typical greeting of an older male to a younger male in this country. It does not indicate any biological relationship.
I was thrown by the fact that he had spoken and that I had actually seen him face to face so soon after the court case, and couldn't react instantly. I went into the shop and bought what I had gone for. I then got my composure back and decided to confront him.
I went over the road to the betting (gambling) shop that I knew he would be in. I waited outside until he came out. I said that I needed a word with him. I said that I was not his son, that I would never be his son, and that I didn't want him speaking to me ever again. He pretended not to know who I was and just tried to get away. I told him that I was the first person that had complained about him, and that it was me who took him to court (he obviously knew this anyway). He said 'sorry about that', but obviously didn't mean it. I was so caught up in the moment, that I forgot to ask ythe one question I needed to! 'Why did you do it'. I know that the answer (if I got) one would be meaningless.
What I did see from our one sided conversation, was that I was now the one with the power - he was so chicken, just trying to get away all the time, that I felt nothing but contempt for him.
Next time I see him, I intend to ask that question! Why?
I don't expect much of an answer!
Best wishes whatever you decide....Rik
*Never look down on anybody unless you're helping them up.
*I was seeking a way of expressing my anger - I found hope!
*There are many battles before the war is won! It can be won!