I was kind of hesitant to say anything, but I think this thread should have been better called:
"Absolve: 1001 Reasons Not to Absolve an Abuser"They don't want to be forgiven, they want to be absolved:
Forgiving is something we do for us
1: to set free from an obligation or the consequences of guilt
2: to remit (a sin) by absolution
, to no longer give our time and energy to the abuser, but to take it back and let go.Absolving is for the abuser
, to set them free of their obligations, their guilt and shame, for what they did.
I have forgiven my abusers for me because I want to heal and no longer be angry. I want to live a positive life.
I will NEVER
absolve my abusers. NEVER
. That is for them to seek from whom ever they feel can provide that for them. Their God, their loved ones, the judge, but they shall NEVER
get this from me.
May we all find forgiveness so we can move on with our lives and no longer waste one second on our abusers. May our abusers feel the weight of their guilt and shame multiply day by day as they forever seek to be absolved but to no avail.
Peace and love my brothers...